Comments on: What single women can learn from Michelle O. http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=1709 "Saving Love Lives The World Over!" Wed, 22 May 2013 22:05:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Alex http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=1709&cpage=1#comment-14210 Alex Wed, 22 Jul 2009 11:25:37 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=1709#comment-14210 hmmm you have a point.............................................................................................................................................................................. hmmm you have a point…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………

]]> By: Karl R http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=1709&cpage=1#comment-12081 Karl R Tue, 09 Jun 2009 14:13:33 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=1709#comment-12081 From the article: "We expect men to resist what society tells them about ideals when it comes to us ... We’re justifiably upset when unrealistic standards are imposed on us, but many of us don’t seem to give black men any breaks in return when it comes to the superficial." I think this reaches the heart of the matter. We expect potential partners to relax their standards to the point where they'll recognize what a terrific catch we are, but we don't realize that we have to do the exact same thing to the same degree. (Or possibly to a "greater" degree, given how much we tend to overvalue our own worth.) From the article:
“We expect men to resist what society tells them about ideals when it comes to us … We’re justifiably upset when unrealistic standards are imposed on us, but many of us don’t seem to give black men any breaks in return when it comes to the superficial.”

I think this reaches the heart of the matter. We expect potential partners to relax their standards to the point where they’ll recognize what a terrific catch we are, but we don’t realize that we have to do the exact same thing to the same degree. (Or possibly to a “greater” degree, given how much we tend to overvalue our own worth.)

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