Comments on: I Can’t Believe It’s Not Boyfriend http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747 "Saving Love Lives The World Over!" Tue, 21 May 2013 06:02:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: BG http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747&cpage=1#comment-46664 BG Fri, 02 Apr 2010 04:12:44 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747#comment-46664 OMG thanks! Please keep visiting/reading. You don't even have to write nice little comments every time! OMG thanks! Please keep visiting/reading. You don’t even have to write nice little comments every time!

]]> By: Sam http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747&cpage=1#comment-46663 Sam Fri, 02 Apr 2010 04:03:01 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747#comment-46663 "shrug off your role as the shoulder"...BG You're great! “shrug off your role as the shoulder”…BG You’re great!

]]> By: Caring Friend http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747&cpage=1#comment-45639 Caring Friend Sat, 27 Mar 2010 15:09:24 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=3747#comment-45639 Dear Unlucky in Love, I agree with most of the response from "Breakup Girl" but I still have some comments to add. I have had this problem for some time. I too have been thought of that that nice guy that girls look for when girls need to feel understood or are in need of consoling when they are broken-hearted. If you want this to stop (which I am sure you do), you cannot continue the way you are broadcasting yourself to girls. First of all, you have to ask yourself how long this pattern of being that "I Can't Believe It's Not Boyfriend" has lasted. If you have noticed that it is longer than just a small phase in your life, you have to redevelop your strategy when approaching a woman. You might not know it, but you may be waving the wrong flag over your head every time you speak to a woman. There is a reason you are not getting the women and those so-called "pigs" are. Those men are doing something you are not or it may be the fact that you are doing something that they are not. One of those is the case and you have to ask yourself which one it is. Trust me when I say that women will keep using you as a shoulder to cry on and to tell you how "horrible" those guys are. Nevertheless, you will continue to be that shoulder to cry on and those other guys will keep getting the girls. Unfortunately, the truth is not going to sound pleasing at all. If you continue to speak to women in this manner you will only be picked when those women decide it is time to settle down and go for someone who actually cares about them which is not good for you at all because you are their last resort before they settle down. An even sadder truth that I have witnessed from friends and family is that those women that do choose you might still cheat on you with those "unreliable" guys because those men give them some uncertainty (translation: excitement) in their lives. You do NOT want to be in this situation because you will be left with "slim pickings". If you continue your actions as that "friend" you will continue to be called up for 2 hours (or more) to make you listen to their problems and they will NEVER see you more than that. I agree that it is nice being there for people, but honestly, you are wasting your time if you think that being that way will get you anywhere in terms of a relationship. My advice is to tell those women the truth (in a subtle manner, of course) that you are not that guy and let them know (again, subtly) that you are that other guy who wants to start something a bit more intimate. I hope that I was of service. Good luck with your ventures. Sincerely, -Caring Friend Dear Unlucky in Love,

I agree with most of the response from “Breakup Girl” but I still have some comments to add.

I have had this problem for some time. I too have been thought of that that nice guy that girls look for when girls need to feel understood or are in need of consoling when they are broken-hearted. If you want this to stop (which I am sure you do), you cannot continue the way you are broadcasting yourself to girls.

First of all, you have to ask yourself how long this pattern of being that “I Can’t Believe It’s Not Boyfriend” has lasted. If you have noticed that it is longer than just a small phase in your life, you have to redevelop your strategy when approaching a woman. You might not know it, but you may be waving the wrong flag over your head every time you speak to a woman.

There is a reason you are not getting the women and those so-called “pigs” are. Those men are doing something you are not or it may be the fact that you are doing something that they are not. One of those is the case and you have to ask yourself which one it is.

Trust me when I say that women will keep using you as a shoulder to cry on and to tell you how “horrible” those guys are. Nevertheless, you will continue to be that shoulder to cry on and those other guys will keep getting the girls. Unfortunately, the truth is not going to sound pleasing at all. If you continue to speak to women in this manner you will only be picked when those women decide it is time to settle down and go for someone who actually cares about them which is not good for you at all because you are their last resort before they settle down. An even sadder truth that I have witnessed from friends and family is that those women that do choose you might still cheat on you with those “unreliable” guys because those men give them some uncertainty (translation: excitement) in their lives. You do NOT want to be in this situation because you will be left with “slim pickings”.

If you continue your actions as that “friend” you will continue to be called up for 2 hours (or more) to make you listen to their problems and they will NEVER see you more than that. I agree that it is nice being there for people, but honestly, you are wasting your time if you think that being that way will get you anywhere in terms of a relationship. My advice is to tell those women the truth (in a subtle manner, of course) that you are not that guy and let them know (again, subtly) that you are that other guy who wants to start something a bit more intimate.

I hope that I was of service. Good luck with your ventures.

Sincerely,

-Caring Friend

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