Comments on: This week at Happen: Did she read him wrong? http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=6586 "Saving Love Lives The World Over!" Wed, 19 Jun 2013 01:32:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Breakup Girl http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=6586&cpage=1#comment-131140 Breakup Girl Fri, 20 Apr 2012 02:23:00 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=6586#comment-131140 HI Karl! Spot on as always. (Though I'm sorry she disappeared!) HI Karl! Spot on as always. (Though I’m sorry she disappeared!)

]]> By: Karl R http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=6586&cpage=1#comment-131127 Karl R Thu, 19 Apr 2012 22:41:02 +0000 http://www.breakupgirl.net/?p=6586#comment-131127 I can't say for certain what is going on with that guy, but I'm quite certain that his reasons have everything to do with him, and nothing to do with her. Four years ago I dated a woman for six weeks, then she suddenly disappeared. I emailed her and left a voice mail, and I got no response. After a couple weeks, I shrugged it off and resumed dating. Several months later, I ran across her again. She apologized for disappearing on me. As far as I could tell, her reasons for disappearing without a word were a combination of the following: 1. She was insanely busy at work. 2. She was moving 1,000 miles away (for a career move) and didn't want to get entangled in a relationship. 3. She didn't want to deal with the awkwardness of trying to break things off directly. 4. She (probably) just wasn't that into me. Even reason #4 isn't about me. It's about how she feels. There obviously were much better ways for her to end things. But when a relationship ends suddenly, with no explanation, don't torture yourself about it. The other person's behavior isn't about you. I can’t say for certain what is going on with that guy, but I’m quite certain that his reasons have everything to do with him, and nothing to do with her.

Four years ago I dated a woman for six weeks, then she suddenly disappeared. I emailed her and left a voice mail, and I got no response. After a couple weeks, I shrugged it off and resumed dating.

Several months later, I ran across her again. She apologized for disappearing on me. As far as I could tell, her reasons for disappearing without a word were a combination of the following:
1. She was insanely busy at work.
2. She was moving 1,000 miles away (for a career move) and didn’t want to get entangled in a relationship.
3. She didn’t want to deal with the awkwardness of trying to break things off directly.
4. She (probably) just wasn’t that into me.

Even reason #4 isn’t about me. It’s about how she feels.

There obviously were much better ways for her to end things. But when a relationship ends suddenly, with no explanation, don’t torture yourself about it. The other person’s behavior isn’t about you.

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