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March 24, 2010

Divorce no longer means going without a gravy boat

Filed under: media,News,pop culture — posted by Paula @ 6:18 am

Enabling Supporting the time-honored marketing scheme theory that everything is OK if it results in shopping, UK department store empire Debenham’s has introduced a kicky new concept in retail therapy: the divorce registry!

Another nail in the coffin of the sanctity of marriage? Liberating new trend? Stupid marketing gimmick? What do you think?


  1. I’m going with Stoopit but I’ve said more than once that I could have used such a thing. Still, nothing helps you really get a clean start like having to assemble a household all over again on your own and nothing renews your connection to the world like accepting help when you need it.

    Comment by Sarah Mello — March 24, 2010 @ 11:38 am

  2. @Sarah; “…nothing renews your connection to the world like accepting help when you need it.”

    Beautifully said.

    Comment by Paula — March 24, 2010 @ 1:31 pm

  3. I think we should reward the independent single people for managing life on their own without the dual income or extravagant wedding.
    Try putting a Christmas tree in a stand by yourself and you’ll see. Try paying for a vacation on your own, then going away by yourself (which, personally, I do like to do). Try moving by yourself.
    Making it on your own is not easy, but the accomplishment of knowing you did it on your own is satisfying and rewarding in itself. Yet there are no “showers”, no registries, no celebrations, no religious ceremonies to toast the ones who navigate life on their own.

    Comment by Sam Bixby — March 24, 2010 @ 1:38 pm

  4. I like this. People have housewarming parties all the time but not everyone does registries. ITs like they are asking for presents w/o quite saying so outright. I can understand weddding/babies but for divorce/singles/housewarming? that just seems like asking too much…

    Comment by Karen — March 24, 2010 @ 2:20 pm

  5. It’s typical and one of the reasons weddings are adream come true for greedy materialist people — ooh I’m getting married, give me presents, now I’m having a baby, more presents! Now I’m getiting a divorce so I can get married again and get more presents but first, give me some divorce presents too, now now now!

    An ex girlfriend of mine … See Morepractically went broke on eyear just paying for all the dumb bridesmaid dresses she’d never wear again and presents when all her friends got married at the same time, outdoing each other for gaudy ceremonies and bad dress choices. Two years later most of them were divorced, then getting married again and expecting more more more! I say: YOU GET NOTHING! EVER! (not you, darling Paula, I’d give you the sun and the moon)

    Comment by Erich Kuersten — March 24, 2010 @ 2:28 pm

  6. Its like rewarding bad behavior. I guess people can be pretty materialistic @ times. Myself I would have been happy with a 100 person wedding but b/c we had alot of family on my in-laws that were not in state, it got to be 120 and I wasn’t really fussing about the presents myself, it was that the day had my friends and family there, not all the cards of thanks to send out. which gave me arm cramp…..:( Competitive wedding? that only hurts yourself and its not a terribly healthy relationship to have. period.
    Its why I also told my bridesmaids I would find a dress under a 100 that they could wear again to some place, something simple and practical. And they loved it! I even gave them cute clutch purses vs. something tiffanys. I get people are celebrating something wonderful but at what cost?

    Comment by Karen — March 24, 2010 @ 6:08 pm

  7. I have to chime in and say I think this is a nice/good thing, unless taken to materialistic extremes (like weddings and baby showers can in this matrimaniacal society of ours).

    Splitting up the household items, as well as personal items that have blurred together over time, is incredibly sad, and replacing those items can be both expensive and time consuming when you already have to stand in line at the Social Security Administration to get your maiden name back, find a new place, move, and go got the DMV for your new address. The ogistics one must struggle with while struggling with saddness, depression, and a sudden loss of social status are really hard on a person. I’ve been there.

    My situation was a little different than most women, because at the time, I was making a bit more than my ex-husband, I was paying for his health benefits, and so on, so I was able to deal with the purchase price of new pots and pans, and new bathroom towels, for example. That stuff adds up, even for someone with modest needs and wants.

    The real moment of celebration and affirmation comes in picking out YOUR favorite color bath towels, or that rather juvenile but pretty flower-shaped bathmat you always had your eye on. I vividly remember standing in a department store with an armful of taupe-colored bath towels, and suddenly realizing that I could pick any color I wanted! I was reclaiming my identity as a “me” and not a “we.”

    I picked two shades of purple, and (you guessed it) a matching flower bath mat. I got myself one of those clear, prism-sparkly shower curtains, and made my bathroom a retreat from the world outside. It was good for me, and almost ten years later, those old ratty purple towels still bring a smile to my face. They mark the moment when I went from doormat to happy bathmat.

    Comment by Mia — March 25, 2010 @ 12:52 pm

  8. Aw, that’s a good story! You make a good case, Mia.

    In my own case, I went from living in a huge, cheap apartment in Sunset Park, Brooklyn, to a tiny, affordable-ish studio in Bay Ridge. So I had to get rid of things rather than buy. But that was wonderful, too–liberating. And I recall a moment of shower-curtain tomfoolery as well.

    Comment by Paula — March 25, 2010 @ 1:32 pm

  9. cleansing is good in any form. 😀 (i.e. spring cleaning!) other option is to not have to change your maiden name and not have to fuss about those things. :) I think its what I would have liked to do myself, it was a bit of a hassle I think. :)

    Comment by Karen — March 25, 2010 @ 1:42 pm

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