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High school drama from January 19, 1998…
Dear Breakup Girl,
I really like this guy who dumped me like three months ago. And I asked him why and I got like five different answers. I don’t know which one to believe. And I really like him a lot. I tried to ask him out personally, but I chickened out and had someone else do it. He just says no or drops the subject or something. Someone asked him why he wouldn’t go back out with me and his answer was “Because…just because. I gotta go.” How should I go about getting him back? Or should I just forget about him (which would be pretty hard)?
– Confused
Dear Confused,
Guys, guys, guys: STOP HAVING OTHER PEOPLE ASK PEOPLE OUT/BREAK UP WITH PEOPLE FOR YOU. Also, no notes. These procedure never work accurately or efficiently! I know they are all standard forms of high school dating communication, but if you ask me, they should have gone out with the rotary phone. I bet you the kids on “Dawson’s Creek” don’t do dumb stuff like that! Then again, they’re all dating grownups. But still.
Love,
Breakup Girl
Here’s some advice for anyone in a situation remotely similar to Confused:
It doesn’t matter why the other person broke up with you. They may tell you one reason. They may have five reasons. (I personally think it’s rude and mean-spirited to mention more than one reason. One is sufficient.) All reasons are essentially the same: “Because … just because.”
If someone breaks up with you, there is no way to “go about getting him back.” You just move on. If you initiated the breakup, you might be able to get the other person back. But you might not be able to … especially if they’ve moved on.
About six months ago, I briefly dated a friend. It quickly became obvious that she wasn’t interested in pursuing a romantic relationship. She said that she was bothered by my lack of a car. I’m more inclined to believe that it was the 10 year age difference. Does anyone really think I should have purchased a car (which I neither want nor need) just so I could date this woman? Does anyone think that would have worked?
Instead, I continued being myself, and I moved on with my life. I started dating other women. None of them were bothered by my lack of a car, and most were closer to my age.
In the past few weeks, I’ve gotten signals that my friend may have changed her mind about pursuing a romantic relationship. We’re going to a movie tomorrow (presumably just as friends), so the topic may come up. If it does, I will point out that I still have no intention of purchasing a car, and the age difference remains the same. If she has changed her mind, that’s entirely up to her.
Comment by Karl R — January 16, 2009 @ 11:34 am
This is a great advice to follow for any sane person
Comment by Want My Boyfriend Back — January 22, 2009 @ 11:21 am