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January 25, 2011

Friends with … regrets?

Filed under: Celebrities,pop culture,Psychology — posted by Breakup Girl @ 11:56 am

Two new movies starring four very attractive people pose the questions: (1) Can “friends with benefits” arrangements work? and (2) Natalie Portman?! On (1) I’m leaning no, if only on the grounds that I would definitely fall for Justin Timberlake.

But Tracy Clark-Flory of Salon.com gives the matter deeper consideration. But her bottom line is basically this: “When you talk to people who have been there and done that — and even those who are continuing to do that — the response is overwhelmingly negative. As my own former ‘friend with benefits’ put it, ‘I’ve been in so many of these situations and, basically, they work until they don’t.'”

Read the rest (Tracy does a bunch of reporting and covers a lot of thoughtful ground) and let us know what you think: Does FWB ever benefit anyone? Under what particular circumstances? Share away, ’cause don’t worry; we won’t expect anything more from you than a good time. 😉


  1. I know of one exception that proves the rule. A guy so perfect for friends with benefits that my friends and I kinda have passed him around according to our own needs. He’s perfect when you’ve just broken up with someone and you need only a certain amount of attention. You’d never ever want to date him, so you don’t mind that it doesn’t go further, but he’s wonderfully sweet, affectionate, loyal and sexy when you do get to have fun with him.

    But a) that is the only exception I know of and b) I couldn’t begin to tell you whether it “works” for him, I only know it works for me!

    All in all, I agree with the line that it works until it doesn’t.

    Comment by Karen — January 25, 2011 @ 12:22 pm

  2. Been there, done it, worked fine. I think Tracy was cherry-picking a bit.

    Comment by tedra — January 25, 2011 @ 12:53 pm

  3. Actually, I really appreciate Amanda Marcotte’s take: http://scribe.doublex.com/blog/xxfactor/love-isnt-consequence

    Comment by BG — January 25, 2011 @ 6:18 pm

  4. I don’t know why that term was created. They aren’t your friends. not like you would hang out and talk about real stuff. It doesn’t seem right. In a sense you are using each other but then emotion gets into the way and makes it all complicated. But if it works, its all good! :)

    Comment by Karen Hiebert — January 25, 2011 @ 9:53 pm

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