e-mail to a friend in needWho’s Asking?
A real go-getter from January 9, 1998…
Dear Breakup Girl,
I really like this guy — should I ask him out? Or should I wait until he does?
–Confused
Dear Confused,
There’s something to be said for waiting. Not because I think we should go back to the time when girls didn’t ask guys out, there were no women in Congress, etc. But because it’s fun to get asked out! It’s flattering! It’s thrilling! (Unless your suitor is that weird boy who wears shorts year-round, even in winter. You know the one.) And, more often than not, it’s useful — when he makes the first move, your preliminary guesswork is over: you know he’s interested, or at least “curious” (my term for one notch below “interested”).
But the same goes both ways. If you really want to be all you -go-girl about it, well then, you go, girl. Ask him out. Once. If he’s busy (or “busy”), you’ve at least made your point. Ball’s in his court now. You don’t have time to chase or flatter. You’ve got to work on that bid for Congress.
Love,
Breakup Girl
I’d add “intrigued” on a notch between “interested” and “curious”
Comment by Eddie — March 19, 2008 @ 11:44 am
Id say its like chess/tennis. you make a move, he makes a move. if not, you go do something else.
how come the background of the text area is red? it makes typing hard to read…
Comment by Karen — March 19, 2008 @ 12:02 pm
I couldn’t help but laugh at the weird boy who wears shorts all year round. My significant other is the weird boy who wears shorts even in the winter. Sometimes the weird ones make life a lot more interesting, and fun.
Comment by Heather — March 28, 2008 @ 11:27 am