Home
Advice

Comics

Animation

Goodies

Big To Do
MORE...
About Us

Archive
“Saving Love Lives The World Over!” e-mail e-mail to a friend in need

October 25, 2011

Kissing FAIL

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:20 am

Never been kissed before August 24, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I’ve tried writing to advice columns before, but not once have I seen/heard a response. I’m trying again, though, in hopes that you can help me out.

First of all, I’ll start by saying I’m a fifteen year old girl. A SHY fifteen year old girl. Before this year, I’ve never been kissed. Sure, I’ve gone out with guys before, but that was “kid stuff” and nothing happened.

Anyway, this year I met this guy, Greg. He was a senior, I was a freshman, but we were really alike, and immediately became friends. After a month or so, a mutual friend set us up. We started seeing each other soon after that.

One day I was over at his house, and we were watching a movie. Halfway through the movie, he leaned in for the “big kiss.” He had kissed me before, but they were just pecks. This time it was more than that. When I realized what was happening, I got nervous, and I was afraid I would do the wrong thing. In result, I pretty much messed up the whole kiss, and ruined the moment. I guess what made me nervous was the fact that I knew he had much more experience than I, and I didn’t want him to think of me as inexperienced. But because of that, I probably looked more inexperienced than I could have.

Our relationship seemed to be more distant after that, or at least I thought so. We didn’t do things as often, and he never tried to kiss me again after that. I don’t think it was intentional for either of us, though. We still talked just as often. It wasn’t like he acted weird about it; he was the total sweetheart he’d always been. We never mentioned that day afterwards, though. I think he thought it made me uncomfortable.

Well, about a month later, he left for the US Navy. Now, we converse through writing letters. We never talked about whether our relationship would continue after he left, or if it would become a friendship instead. Therefore, I don’t know his feelings about “us” anymore. I still care about him very much, maybe even love him. I would like to continue a long distance relationship with him, but I don’t know how he feels about that. Our relationship was never very serious, which is why I’m unsure of his feelings. Because of this confusion, would it be cheating to go out with other guys? Also, how can I find out how he feels without making myself look too committed or too possessive or such?

And back to the first part of my story–the kiss. Recently, I was talking with that mutual friend, and she mentioned that he had talked to her about the day he kissed me. He asked her if I had ever kissed anyone before, and said he could kind of tell I hadn’t. So I’m wondering, do you think my lack of experience turned him off? Or did he think he made me uncomfortable? I’m asking this because he’s returning home for a break in a few weeks and I’d really like him to kiss me again, and maybe more. I’m very shy though, and not the person to make the first move. I want him to know how I feel, but I feel awkward actually coming out and saying it, not knowing if he feels the same. I also don’t want to sound too obsessive or possessive, either.

I’m in great need of some good advice. I’ve been contemplating what to do forever, but nothing seems right. Please help!

— Shy and Confused


Dear Shy and Confused,

Wow, your first kiss, and your first advice query ever answered, all in the same letter!

Here’s the deal: I don’t think your lack of experience turned him off, but I think it did make him nervous. Like, he didn’t want to freak you out. Contrary to popular belief, a lot of guys are, like, nice — not to mention shy, too. They also don’t want to be turned down. All of these things were at risk for him the moment he realized you hadn’t exactly been around the block. BUT YOU DIDN’T “MESS ANYTHING UP.”

I think — if you can muster the courage — you could totally say something like, “Hey, do you wanna hang out at all while you’re at home? It’s okay if you don’t, but call me if you do.” Ball’s in his court. See what he does. If nothing happens, well, that’s bad and sad, but in the big picture, for someone who thinks she’s a shy girl, you’re doing just fine. I promise that there will be other guys who will go at whatever pace you’re comfortable with — repeat: whatever pace YOU’RE comfortable with — and who will not go … away.

Love,
Breakup Girl

2 Comments »

  1. Wow that was odd. I just wrote an really long comment but
    after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr…
    well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyway, just wanted to say excellent blog!

    Comment by steal important items — June 4, 2017 @ 7:30 pm

  2. Its like you read my mind! You seem to know a lot
    about this, like you wrote the book in it or something.

    I think that you could do with a few pics to
    drive the message home a little bit, but other than that, this is
    fantastic blog. An excellent read. I will certainly be back.

    Comment by broadband deals comparison — June 5, 2017 @ 8:16 am

  3. Quality articles is the crucial to invite the people to visit the web site,
    that’s what this web site is providing.

    Comment by http://www.parrocchiasanpioxcagliari.it/ — June 5, 2017 @ 7:21 pm

  4. What’s up, I log on to your new stuff on a regular basis.
    Your writing style is awesome, keep up the good work!

    Comment by http://www.faniu.cc/ — June 6, 2017 @ 2:28 pm

  5. My developer is trying to convince me to move to .net from PHP.
    I have always disliked the idea because of the costs.

    But he’s tryiong none the less. I’ve been using Movable-type on a number of
    websites for about a year and am concerned about switching to another platform.

    I have heard very good things about blogengine.net.
    Is there a way I can transfer all my wordpress posts into it?
    Any help would be really appreciated!

    Comment by http://hamounpumpalborz.com — June 7, 2017 @ 4:30 am

  6. Useful info. Fortunate me I discovered your site unintentionally, and I’m shocked why
    this twist of fate didn’t happened in advance! I bookmarked it.

    Comment by http://www.cafehub.org — June 7, 2017 @ 3:04 pm

  7. I have been surfing online more than 3 hours today, but I by
    no means discovered any fascinating article like yours. It’s lovely worth sufficient for me.
    Personally, if all web owners and bloggers made excellent content material
    as you probably did, the internet might be much more helpful than ever
    before.

    Comment by scatrina.com — June 8, 2017 @ 12:12 am

  8. whoah this weblog is excellent i really like reading your posts.
    Keep up the good work! You already know, lots of people
    are hunting around for this info, you could aid them greatly.

    Comment by credit card generator — June 8, 2017 @ 2:37 am

  9. Today, I went to the beachfront with my kids.
    I found a sea shell and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She placed
    the shell to her ear and screamed. There was a hermit crab inside and it pinched her
    ear. She never wants to go back! LoL I know this is
    totally off topic but I had to tell someone!

    Comment by Beatriz — June 10, 2017 @ 3:14 am

  10. What’s up, yup this article is in fact fastidious and I have learned
    lot of things from it about blogging. thanks.

    Comment by security systems — June 11, 2017 @ 5:21 pm

  11. My spouse and I absolutely love your blog and find the majority
    of your post’s to be what precisely I’m looking for. Does one offer guest writers to write content available for you?
    I wouldn’t mind composing a post or elaborating on many of the subjects you write with regards to here.
    Again, awesome site!

    Comment by http://peddlingprofits.com/members/dena7313273080/activity/3618 — June 13, 2017 @ 5:41 am

  12. Great article, just what I needed.

    Comment by online downloaded video — June 14, 2017 @ 7:22 pm

  13. I blog frequently and I genuinely appreciate your content.
    The article has truly peaked my interest. I will book mark your site and keep checking for new information about once per week.
    I opted in for your RSS feed as well.

    Comment by car computer exchange — June 14, 2017 @ 8:48 pm

  14. Hi, i think that i saw you visited my web site so i came to “return the
    favor”.I am attempting to find things to enhance my web site!I suppose its ok to
    use some of your ideas!!

    Comment by handle divorce — June 16, 2017 @ 10:31 pm

  15. What’s up i am kavin, its my first occasion to commenting anyplace, when i read this paragraph
    i thought i could also make comment due to this sensible paragraph.

    Comment by hire amount — June 17, 2017 @ 10:26 am

  16. Very nice post. I just stumbled upon your weblog and
    wanted to say that I have really enjoyed browsing your blog posts.
    After all I’ll be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again very soon!

    Comment by Milla — June 17, 2017 @ 3:11 pm

  17. Hello, its nice post regarding media print, we
    all be aware of media is a wonderful source of facts.

    Comment by hair extensions tend — June 19, 2017 @ 8:15 pm

  18. It’s remarkable to pay a quick visit this site and reading the views
    of all mates concerning this piece of writing, while I am also keen of getting familiarity.

    Comment by car computer exchange — June 20, 2017 @ 8:58 pm

  19. Hey! I could have sworn I’ve been to this blog before but
    after checking through some of the post I realized it’s new to me.
    Anyways, I’m definitely glad I found it and I’ll be bookmarking and checking back often!

    Comment by label maker software — June 25, 2017 @ 12:20 am

  20. Every weekend i used to pay a quick visit this web page, because i wish for enjoyment, for the reason that this
    this web site conations in fact nice funny information too.

    Comment by Mai — June 25, 2017 @ 2:27 am

  21. Hello! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a team of volunteers and starting a new project in a community in the
    same niche. Your blog provided us valuable information to work on. You have done a wonderful job!

    Comment by http://sqle.ru/index.php/Trend_Accumulated_Snow_Shoes_Always_Hot_The_Heart — June 26, 2017 @ 8:43 am

  22. bookmarked!!, I like your web site!

    Comment by computer protection — June 27, 2017 @ 6:20 am

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

**Mean or otherwise out-of-line comments will be deleted. That’s just how we roll.

[breakupgirl.net]

blog | advice | comics | animation | goodies | to do | archive | about us

Breakup Girl created by Lynn Harris & Chris Kalb
© 2008 Just Friends Productions, Inc.
| privacy policy
Cool Aid!

Important Breakup Girl Maxim:
Breakup Girl Sez

MORE COMICS...

Powered by WordPress