Big To Do
About Us

“Saving Love Lives The World Over!” e-mail e-mail to a friend in need

July 12, 2012

Stalked by his crazy ex!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:07 am

It Came From The PastGoing nuts on October 26, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I have a question for you concerning psychotic ex-girlfriends. My boyfriend’s ex, we’ll call her Betty, of MANY years, truly needs therapy. Since the beginning of our relationship, she has done the following to both of us: prank phone calls at all hours of the night and day, followed us, driven by our apartments, mutilated our cars several times, picked a fight with me, and most recently, after much denial, apologized to him. Trust me, this is just the tip of the iceberg for what we have gone through with her. Unfortunately, given our vague statutes on stalking and harassment, we could never prove anything to press charges. I have tried with all my might to be mature about this and remain calm. But the longer it continues, the more difficult it becomes to control myself. It’s unfair for me to have to go through this. I didn’t even know the woman before Will and I have never done anything to her, not even in retaliation. It’s not my fault that she cannot accept the fact that their relationship is over and she shot any chance of them being just friends. We are getting married very soon and I am beginning to wonder if this childish behavior will ever cease. What do I do? Why is she like this? What will make her stop, if anything (we’ve tried rationally talking to her, but it only provokes her more). How do I deal? I believe personally that her reasons are for revenge against him. I also think she is trying to split us up to get him back. But don’t you think she would have realized by this point (we’ve been together 5 years) that we are not going to split and all these things she ‘s done to him only make him hate her more?! She denies everything she’s done to us but we KNOW it’s her. We are not the type of people to readily make enemies of people. We just try to peacefully live our lives and let others do the same. All that said, I just cannot figure this woman out and I am now at the point where it’s no longer fun and games. She has had ample time to movve on in her life and get over this situation. I understand that sometimes love makes you crazy and when you lose someone you love, you may do a few crazy things. Good and fine but this is out of control. I have analyzed and analyzed the situation and I am just stumped. My last husband was really a jerk to me, and I loved him of course. When we split, though, moving on was my concern. Which only makes me wonder even more what makes her like this and they weren’t even married. They dated for about one year, give or take a few months. A few days ago I went to see an attorney and really there’s nothing I can do because we have no “concrete” evidence. Believe me BG, when I say we have done everything humanly possible within the guidelines of rational adult behavior to stop this, it’s true. I would also just like to say that when people act this way to others, it only makes them look like the ass. And probably the saddest point: I actually feel sorry for her. My reasoning is that there really has to be something wrong with her to cause a grown woman to act this way. Plus, I work in an extremely fastpaced, time consuming occupation and this situation has skyrocketed my stress level. I am truly stumped.

— Stumped in Boston

Dear Boston,

Actually, I think¬†you guys need to move on. From that attorney. Now, I don’t know exactly what you all talked about, and I’m not saying you met with some quack, but it’s my understanding that the Massachusetts stalking law is anything but vague. (As far as I can tell, the “problem” you’ll have making a case is that she apparently hasn’t threatened you with bodily harm.) Point is, get a second opinion: what laws¬†do cover Betty’s bad deeds? What kind of evidence do you need to get — and how could you get it? What’s the possibility of a restraining order? Other alternatives or legal recourses? Breakup Girl (1) knows you’ve already spent way too much time dealing with this madness already, (2) can imagine few things more crazy-making, and (3) realizes that it’s not “fair” that you two should spend so much time handling her mishigas, but let’s put that aside: if this really must stop — which it must — it’s time to focus on the nuts and bolts and laws of the land. The behavior you describe is plenty convincing as bad — if not illegal — on its own. Don’t waste your time looking for rational reasons for irrational acts. And don’t waste your time trying to prove to Breakup Girl or anyone else that you two are the stalked, wronged party, that you are Better People who actually pity this poor soul. What-EVER. Align yourselves with the force of law, plain and simple — not the forces of righteousness. Good luck.

Breakup Girl


  1. A major cable network and Emmy-award winning documentarians want to hear your story.



    + A recent photo/headshot (or any snapshot is fine)
    + Your name, phone number, and location in the US
    + A brief (about 300 words) story of your breakup: give us the dramatic details! Tell us your story the way you would on TV! Email to exshowcasting@gmail.com
    + Please note your “ex”s name and whether they would also be willing to participate. (We will do everything we can to make sure you both feel comfortable in our shoot setting, we will film you separately).

    Looking forward to hearing from you!

    Comment by Michael Raptis — July 12, 2012 @ 10:30 am

  2. prophetharry is a caring and wonderful spiritualist. he works with you until you see results. prophetharry@ymail.com is awesome when it comes to love case.

    Comment by anonymous — July 12, 2012 @ 8:02 pm

  3. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. We dated about 4 months. I did everything for him whenever he needed help with something, I love him so much and cared about him a lot. I never asked anything from him. I have no kids and a good well paying job. Everything was so perfect and good between us. He told me he would take me ring shopping and we would settle down and have a baby together. Everything was great. We met each other families and everyone told us we were perfect for each other. Out of nowhere he surprisingly left me to be with another girl, so i met a friend who gave me this Phone number + 1 9 7 1 5 1 2 6 7 4 5 of this spell caster Robinson to contact him, i contacted him because i was so heartbroken and don’t know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting Mr Robinson , my lover came back to me

    Comment by Anonymous — July 6, 2014 @ 12:15 pm

  4. http://prograf.top/ – prograf cost without insurance http://generic-for-zoloft.party/ – generic for zoloft http://lasix-water-pill.party/ – buy lasix online cheap http://albuterol-sulfate.party/ – click this link

    Comment by ashomcs2b3o — July 19, 2016 @ 11:46 pm

  5. First of all I would like to say terrific blog!
    I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind.
    I was curious to find out how you center yourself and clear your
    thoughts prior to writing. I have had a tough time clearing my thoughts in getting my ideas out there.
    I truly do enjoy writing however it just seems like the first
    10 to 15 minutes are usually lost just trying to figure out how to begin. Any suggestions
    or tips? Kudos!

    Comment by Earlene — October 13, 2016 @ 2:02 pm

  6. This website really has all the information and facts I needed about this subject and didn’t know
    who to ask.

    Comment by stolen american passport — October 18, 2016 @ 1:42 am

  7. Hi there! This is kind of off topic but I need some help from an established blog.
    Is it tough to set up your own blog? I’m not very techincal but I can figure things out pretty fast.
    I’m thinking about making my own but I’m not sure where
    to begin. Do you have any tips or suggestions?
    With thanks

    Comment by Shailendra Singh Sequoia Capital India — October 18, 2016 @ 7:13 pm

  8. Its like you read my mind! You appear to understand a lot approximately this,
    such as you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you just can do with some % to drive the message home a little bit, but other
    than that, this is excellent blog. A fantastic read. I’ll certainly be back.

    Comment by Brandon — October 18, 2016 @ 9:12 pm

  9. If some one needs expert view regarding blogging and site-building
    after that i propose him/her to pay a visit this web site, Keep up the good job.

    Comment by death recently — October 21, 2016 @ 4:01 am

  10. I am really thankful to the holder of this site who has shared this impressive post at at this place.

    Comment by new passport account — October 21, 2016 @ 4:30 am

  11. I got what you mean,saved to my bookmarks, very nice internet site.

    Comment by Klaudia — October 21, 2016 @ 5:15 pm

  12. A fascinating discussion is worth comment. I believe that you need to write more about this topic,
    it might not be a taboo matter but generally people do not talk about these issues.
    To the next! All the best!!

    Comment by Senaida — October 21, 2016 @ 9:33 pm

  13. A fascinating discussion is definitely worth comment.
    I think that you ought to write more about this topic, it might not be a taboo subject but
    usually people do not talk about these subjects.

    To the next! Cheers!!

    Comment by business cards — October 25, 2016 @ 9:11 am

  14. wh0cd508857 Cialis No Prescription

    Comment by Caseynen — April 24, 2017 @ 4:22 am

  15. Wow, amazing blog layout! How long have you been blogging for?
    you made blogging look easy. The overall look of your site is magnificent, let alone
    the content!

    Comment by glam seamless review — May 29, 2017 @ 7:08 am

  16. Undeniably believe that which you said. Your favorite
    justification appeared to be on the internet the easiest
    thing to be aware of. I say to you, I certainly get annoyed while people consider worries that they just
    don’t know about. You managed to hit the nail upon the top
    and also defined out the whole thing without having side effect
    , people can take a signal. Will probably be back to get more.

    Comment by cruise vacation — May 30, 2017 @ 5:57 pm

  17. It’s a shame you don’t have a donate button! I’d certainly donate to this excellent blog!
    I guess for now i’ll settle for bookmarking and adding your RSS feed to my Google account.
    I look forward to fresh updates and will share
    this blog with my Facebook group. Talk soon!

    Comment by www.fobesa.com — May 31, 2017 @ 12:51 am

  18. Link exchange is nothing else except it is just placing the other person’s
    webpage link on your page at appropriate place and other person will also do same in support of you.

    Comment by bbs.yuhedata.com — May 31, 2017 @ 6:51 pm

  19. You are so awesome! I do not believe I’ve truly read through something like that before.
    So good to discover another person with some original
    thoughts on this topic. Seriously.. thank you for starting this up.
    This website is something that is required on the web, someone with some originality!

    Comment by chase credit card — June 2, 2017 @ 2:07 am

  20. Actually no matter if someone doesn’t know
    afterward its up to other people that they will assist, so here it

    Comment by car computer exchange — June 2, 2017 @ 11:30 am

  21. I am regular reader, how are you everybody? This piece of writing posted at this
    web site is genuinely pleasant.

    Comment by capital one credit card — June 3, 2017 @ 9:11 am

  22. We stumbled over here by a different website and thought I may
    as well check things out. I like what I see so now i’m following
    you. Look forward to exploring your web page yet again.

    Comment by proper home security — June 5, 2017 @ 6:12 am

  23. I do agree with all of the ideas you have presented for your post.
    They are really convincing and will certainly work.
    Still, the posts are very short for novices. Could you please prolong them a bit from subsequent time?
    Thanks for the post.

    Comment by http://www.elamalh.com/vBSmart420/entry.php?148764-Looking-After-Your-Wonderful-Hair-Extensions — June 12, 2017 @ 3:09 pm

  24. This paragraph provides clear idea designed for the
    new visitors of blogging, that in fact how to do running a blog.

    Comment by http://www.shipgiare.com/?option=com_k2&view=itemlist&task=user&id=317400 — June 15, 2017 @ 12:51 pm

  25. constantly i used to read smaller articles or
    reviews that also clear their motive, and that is also happening with this
    article which I am reading at this place.

    Comment by diagnostics automobile diagnostics — June 16, 2017 @ 12:34 am

  26. I visit day-to-day some blogs and blogs to read articles or reviews, however this web site gives
    feature based posts.

    Comment by Lydia — June 18, 2017 @ 6:17 pm

  27. Your style is very unique compared to other folks I’ve
    read stuff from. Thanks for posting when you have the opportunity, Guess I’ll just book mark
    this web site.

    Comment by proper home security — June 21, 2017 @ 8:45 pm

  28. whoah this blog is excellent i really like reading your posts.
    Keep up the great work! You understand, many people are hunting around for this information, you could aid them greatly.

    Comment by car computer holder — June 22, 2017 @ 3:31 pm

  29. You really make it seem so easy with your presentation but I
    find this matter to be really something that I think I would never understand.

    It seems too complicated and very broad for me. I’m looking forward
    for your next post, I will try to get the hang of it!

    Comment by Logan — June 23, 2017 @ 7:10 pm

  30. Hurrah! At last I got a webpage from where I know how to really obtain useful facts regarding my study and knowledge.

    Comment by redworks.nl — June 25, 2017 @ 1:05 am

  31. Thanks on your marvelous posting! I really enjoyed
    reading it, you could be a great author.I will ensure that I bookmark your blog and will often come back later in life.
    I want to encourage you continue your great posts, have a nice afternoon!

    Comment by Eddie — June 26, 2017 @ 12:23 am

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

**Mean or otherwise out-of-line comments will be deleted. That’s just how we roll.


blog | advice | comics | animation | goodies | to do | archive | about us

Breakup Girl created by Lynn Harris & Chris Kalb
© 2008 Just Friends Productions, Inc.
| privacy policy
Cool Aid!

Important Breakup Girl Maxim:
Breakup Girl Sez


Powered by WordPress