Big To Do
About Us

“Saving Love Lives The World Over!” e-mail e-mail to a friend in need

July 12, 2012

Stalked by his crazy ex!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:07 am

It Came From The PastGoing nuts on October 26, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I have a question for you concerning psychotic ex-girlfriends. My boyfriend’s ex, we’ll call her Betty, of MANY years, truly needs therapy. Since the beginning of our relationship, she has done the following to both of us: prank phone calls at all hours of the night and day, followed us, driven by our apartments, mutilated our cars several times, picked a fight with me, and most recently, after much denial, apologized to him. Trust me, this is just the tip of the iceberg for what we have gone through with her. Unfortunately, given our vague statutes on stalking and harassment, we could never prove anything to press charges. I have tried with all my might to be mature about this and remain calm. But the longer it continues, the more difficult it becomes to control myself. It’s unfair for me to have to go through this. I didn’t even know the woman before Will and I have never done anything to her, not even in retaliation. It’s not my fault that she cannot accept the fact that their relationship is over and she shot any chance of them being just friends. We are getting married very soon and I am beginning to wonder if this childish behavior will ever cease. What do I do? Why is she like this? What will make her stop, if anything (we’ve tried rationally talking to her, but it only provokes her more). How do I deal? I believe personally that her reasons are for revenge against him. I also think she is trying to split us up to get him back. But don’t you think she would have realized by this point (we’ve been together 5 years) that we are not going to split and all these things she ‘s done to him only make him hate her more?! She denies everything she’s done to us but we KNOW it’s her. We are not the type of people to readily make enemies of people. We just try to peacefully live our lives and let others do the same. All that said, I just cannot figure this woman out and I am now at the point where it’s no longer fun and games. She has had ample time to movve on in her life and get over this situation. I understand that sometimes love makes you crazy and when you lose someone you love, you may do a few crazy things. Good and fine but this is out of control. I have analyzed and analyzed the situation and I am just stumped. My last husband was really a jerk to me, and I loved him of course. When we split, though, moving on was my concern. Which only makes me wonder even more what makes her like this and they weren’t even married. They dated for about one year, give or take a few months. A few days ago I went to see an attorney and really there’s nothing I can do because we have no “concrete” evidence. Believe me BG, when I say we have done everything humanly possible within the guidelines of rational adult behavior to stop this, it’s true. I would also just like to say that when people act this way to others, it only makes them look like the ass. And probably the saddest point: I actually feel sorry for her. My reasoning is that there really has to be something wrong with her to cause a grown woman to act this way. Plus, I work in an extremely fastpaced, time consuming occupation and this situation has skyrocketed my stress level. I am truly stumped.

— Stumped in Boston

Dear Boston,

Actually, I think you guys need to move on. From that attorney. Now, I don’t know exactly what you all talked about, and I’m not saying you met with some quack, but it’s my understanding that the Massachusetts stalking law is anything but vague. (As far as I can tell, the “problem” you’ll have making a case is that she apparently hasn’t threatened you with bodily harm.) Point is, get a second opinion: what laws do cover Betty’s bad deeds? What kind of evidence do you need to get — and how could you get it? What’s the possibility of a restraining order? Other alternatives or legal recourses? Breakup Girl (1) knows you’ve already spent way too much time dealing with this madness already, (2) can imagine few things more crazy-making, and (3) realizes that it’s not “fair” that you two should spend so much time handling her mishigas, but let’s put that aside: if this really must stop — which it must — it’s time to focus on the nuts and bolts and laws of the land. The behavior you describe is plenty convincing as bad — if not illegal — on its own. Don’t waste your time looking for rational reasons for irrational acts. And don’t waste your time trying to prove to Breakup Girl or anyone else that you two are the stalked, wronged party, that you are Better People who actually pity this poor soul. What-EVER. Align yourselves with the force of law, plain and simple — not the forces of righteousness. Good luck.

Breakup Girl


  1. canada viagra
    over the counter viagra
    alternative to viagra
    real viagra for sale
    viagra generic online

    Comment by JudithRic — November 4, 2017 @ 7:58 am

  2. buy cialis with no prescription
    cialis generic
    cheap cialis in sydney
    generic cialis 2017
    cialis order uk

    Comment by TimothyWroto — November 4, 2017 @ 1:10 pm

  3. get viagra tescos
    generic viagra online
    aurochem generic viagra
    viagra generic availability
    original viagra price

    Comment by JoshuaAssef — November 8, 2017 @ 12:07 am

  4. cheapest levitra/uk
    vardenafil 20mg
    buy levitra in uk
    vardenafil 20mg
    buy levitra online europe

    Comment by Josephlaw — November 8, 2017 @ 10:03 pm

  5. autocad lisp downloads
    autodesk autocad
    autocad 2012 delete key not working
    autocad 2016
    download hatch patterns for autocad 2017

    Comment by KennethDut — November 10, 2017 @ 2:10 am

  6. autocad 2011 student version download
    autocad 2018
    autocad request code
    autocad 2016
    autocad patterns download

    Comment by BrittGilky — November 10, 2017 @ 6:45 pm

  7. best online viagra sales
    viagra prices
    can u get viagra on nhs
    viagra without a doctor prescription
    comprar viagra andorra online

    Comment by WarrenExota — November 14, 2017 @ 1:56 am

  8. can u take 2 cialis pills
    cialis without prescription
    cheap cialis lilly
    cialis without prescription
    what are cialis pills for

    Comment by CalvinUnani — November 17, 2017 @ 2:05 am

  9. buy cialis online yahoo answers
    cialis without doctor
    order cialis overnight delivery
    cialis without a doctor prescription
    order cialis online

    Comment by Stewartmed — November 17, 2017 @ 2:20 pm

  10. http://advanceloansbad.com
    payday loans in milwaukee

    banks with personal loans
    payday express

    Comment by Moulty — November 17, 2017 @ 4:24 pm

  11. cheap cialis prices uk
    cialis without a doctor
    can cialis pills split half
    cialis without a doctor’s prescription
    cialis best buy

    Comment by Jamescot — November 18, 2017 @ 3:24 am

  12. http://onlinepaydayloansus.us.com/
    money borrowing sites
    online loans
    bad credit payday loans
    payday cash loan

    Comment by apogela — November 18, 2017 @ 9:39 pm

  13. http://onlinepaydayloansus.us.com/
    payday loans toledo ohio
    loans online loans
    personal unsecured loans for bad credit
    payday loans online same day

    Comment by DokAlkaw — November 19, 2017 @ 8:40 am

  14. http://paydayloansmenear.com/
    interest free payday loans
    money loans near me
    tribal loans for bad credit
    pay day loans near me

    Comment by tinscymn — November 19, 2017 @ 10:07 pm

  15. cheap indian cialis
    cheap cialis online
    buy cialis overnight
    cialis cost
    buy cialis japan

    Comment by DavidGex — November 20, 2017 @ 11:29 pm

  16. http://paydayloanstexasx.com/
    urgent cash
    payday express
    personal loan fair credit
    bad credit loans texas

    Comment by Reidge — November 21, 2017 @ 9:23 pm

  17. http://paydayloanstexasx.com/
    online loan approval
    bad credit loans texas
    paid day loans
    payday loans texas

    Comment by Argued — November 22, 2017 @ 4:29 am

  18. se puede comprar viagra sin receta en la farmacia
    viagra cost
    best viagra online site
    cost of viagra
    viagra generico citrato de sildenafila

    Comment by LouisGek — November 25, 2017 @ 4:50 pm

  19. best cbd capsules his explanation best cbd oil online

    cbd oil online sale more best cbd capsules

    Comment by Sonjastove — November 26, 2017 @ 1:17 am

  20. http://cialisnorxbuy.com
    metformin and foot pain cialis generic pills
    buy cialis
    generic cialis online pharmacy
    generic cialis online

    Comment by attania — November 26, 2017 @ 3:12 am

  21. generica sildenafil
    viagra price
    viagra online goedkoop
    viagra coupons 75 off
    how old do you need to be to buy viagra

    Comment by Geralddueno — November 26, 2017 @ 3:12 am

  22. cialis canada discount
    cialis coupons
    order cialis paypal
    cialis coupons 2017
    buy cialis online usa

    Comment by Jarrodzefly — November 26, 2017 @ 10:52 pm

  23. buy levitra online in australia
    levitra 20mg
    where to buy generic levitra online
    levitra coupon
    buy cialis levitra viagra

    Comment by Stevensoync — November 27, 2017 @ 9:58 pm

  24. buy cheap generic levitra online
    levitra prices
    cheap levitra australia
    levitra bayer 20mg meilleur prix
    levitra for sale no prescription

    Comment by TerryNed — November 28, 2017 @ 3:54 am

  25. definition viagra pills
    best erection pills
    dosage viagra 100mg
    ed medications
    cialis 20mg filmtabletten 12 st

    Comment by Rolandfrown — December 6, 2017 @ 3:40 pm

  26. best place to order cialis
    cialis rezeptfrei
    buy cialis eli lilly
    cialis without doctor
    cialis super active buy

    Comment by Louiscob — December 7, 2017 @ 1:32 am

  27. sildenafil 100 mg cmax
    cheap viagra
    venta de viagra generico
    viagra prices
    viagra generic canada no prescription

    Comment by ArmandoTheno — December 8, 2017 @ 1:51 am

  28. brand viagra buy http://vipnowed7.com/ viagra 50mg [url=http://vipnowed7.com/]online viagra[/url]

    Comment by MbjhdkANNERY — December 8, 2017 @ 2:06 am

  29. online viagra from usa
    cheap viagra
    china viagra sale
    viagra online
    where i can buy viagra in australia

    Comment by JamesAxiog — December 8, 2017 @ 12:39 pm

  30. drug stores in canada
    canadian drug company
    northwest pharmacy canada pharmacies canada world pharmacy

    canada meds

    Comment by f01omvh — December 8, 2017 @ 1:43 pm

  31. payday loans in wichita ks
    payday loans for bad credit
    top loans
    cash loans no credit check
    2000 loan with bad credit

    Comment by JacobWoOma — December 8, 2017 @ 7:39 pm

  32. bad credit no fax payday loan – http://paydayloans-online.us.com/ open bank account online [url=http://paydayloans-online.us.com/]online payday loans direct lenders[/url] ’

    Comment by Munbsoccaks — December 8, 2017 @ 7:43 pm

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

**Mean or otherwise out-of-line comments will be deleted. That’s just how we roll.


blog | advice | comics | animation | goodies | to do | archive | about us

Breakup Girl created by Lynn Harris & Chris Kalb
© 2008 Just Friends Productions, Inc.
| privacy policy
Cool Aid!

Important Breakup Girl Maxim:
Breakup Girl Sez


Powered by WordPress