Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-settings.php on line 512

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-settings.php on line 527

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-settings.php on line 534

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-settings.php on line 570

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Page::start_lvl() should be compatible with Walker::start_lvl(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1199

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Page::end_lvl() should be compatible with Walker::end_lvl(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1199

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Page::start_el() should be compatible with Walker::start_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1199

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Page::end_el() should be compatible with Walker::end_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1199

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_PageDropdown::start_el() should be compatible with Walker::start_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1244

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Category::start_lvl() should be compatible with Walker::start_lvl(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1391

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Category::end_lvl() should be compatible with Walker::end_lvl(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1391

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Category::start_el() should be compatible with Walker::start_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1391

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Category::end_el() should be compatible with Walker::end_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1391

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_CategoryDropdown::start_el() should be compatible with Walker::start_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/classes.php on line 1442

Strict Standards: Redefining already defined constructor for class wpdb in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/wp-db.php on line 306

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/cache.php on line 103

Strict Standards: Redefining already defined constructor for class WP_Object_Cache in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/cache.php on line 431

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/query.php on line 61

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/theme.php on line 1109

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Comment::start_lvl() should be compatible with Walker::start_lvl(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/comment-template.php on line 1266

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Comment::end_lvl() should be compatible with Walker::end_lvl(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/comment-template.php on line 1266

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Comment::start_el() should be compatible with Walker::start_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/comment-template.php on line 1266

Strict Standards: Declaration of Walker_Comment::end_el() should be compatible with Walker::end_el(&$output) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/comment-template.php on line 1266

Strict Standards: Redefining already defined constructor for class WP_Dependencies in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/class.wp-dependencies.php on line 31

Strict Standards: Redefining already defined constructor for class WP_Http in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-includes/http.php on line 61

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrFrontHelp::detect_bot() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1295

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrFrontHelp::detect_ban() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1296

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrBlgDB::check_ip_single() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/blg/helpers.php on line 90

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrBlgDB::check_ip_range() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/blg/helpers.php on line 92

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrBlgDB::check_ip_mask() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/blg/helpers.php on line 94

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::prefill_zeros() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1709

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::prefill_zeros() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1710

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::prefill_zeros() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1711

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::prefill_zeros() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1712

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::prefill_zeros() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1713

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::prefill_zeros() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1714
Breakup Girl » Stalked by his crazy ex!
Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrFrontHelp::ie_opacity_fix() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1415
Home
Advice

Comics

Animation

Goodies

Big To Do
MORE...
About Us

Archive
“Saving Love Lives The World Over!” e-mail e-mail to a friend in need

July 12, 2012

Stalked by his crazy ex!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:07 am

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdFunctionsGDSR::get_caller_backtrace() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1826

Strict Standards: Non-static method gdsrBlgDB::add_new_view() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1837

Strict Standards: Non-static method GDSRDatabase::get_post_data() should not be called statically in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/cache.php on line 107

It Came From The PastGoing nuts on October 26, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I have a question for you concerning psychotic ex-girlfriends. My boyfriend’s ex, we’ll call her Betty, of MANY years, truly needs therapy. Since the beginning of our relationship, she has done the following to both of us: prank phone calls at all hours of the night and day, followed us, driven by our apartments, mutilated our cars several times, picked a fight with me, and most recently, after much denial, apologized to him. Trust me, this is just the tip of the iceberg for what we have gone through with her. Unfortunately, given our vague statutes on stalking and harassment, we could never prove anything to press charges. I have tried with all my might to be mature about this and remain calm. But the longer it continues, the more difficult it becomes to control myself. It’s unfair for me to have to go through this. I didn’t even know the woman before Will and I have never done anything to her, not even in retaliation. It’s not my fault that she cannot accept the fact that their relationship is over and she shot any chance of them being just friends. We are getting married very soon and I am beginning to wonder if this childish behavior will ever cease. What do I do? Why is she like this? What will make her stop, if anything (we’ve tried rationally talking to her, but it only provokes her more). How do I deal? I believe personally that her reasons are for revenge against him. I also think she is trying to split us up to get him back. But don’t you think she would have realized by this point (we’ve been together 5 years) that we are not going to split and all these things she ’s done to him only make him hate her more?! She denies everything she’s done to us but we KNOW it’s her. We are not the type of people to readily make enemies of people. We just try to peacefully live our lives and let others do the same. All that said, I just cannot figure this woman out and I am now at the point where it’s no longer fun and games. She has had ample time to movve on in her life and get over this situation. I understand that sometimes love makes you crazy and when you lose someone you love, you may do a few crazy things. Good and fine but this is out of control. I have analyzed and analyzed the situation and I am just stumped. My last husband was really a jerk to me, and I loved him of course. When we split, though, moving on was my concern. Which only makes me wonder even more what makes her like this and they weren’t even married. They dated for about one year, give or take a few months. A few days ago I went to see an attorney and really there’s nothing I can do because we have no “concrete” evidence. Believe me BG, when I say we have done everything humanly possible within the guidelines of rational adult behavior to stop this, it’s true. I would also just like to say that when people act this way to others, it only makes them look like the ass. And probably the saddest point: I actually feel sorry for her. My reasoning is that there really has to be something wrong with her to cause a grown woman to act this way. Plus, I work in an extremely fastpaced, time consuming occupation and this situation has skyrocketed my stress level. I am truly stumped.

– Stumped in Boston


Dear Boston,

Actually, I think¬†you guys need to move on. From that attorney. Now, I don’t know exactly what you all talked about, and I’m not saying you met with some quack, but it’s my understanding that the Massachusetts stalking law is anything but vague. (As far as I can tell, the “problem” you’ll have making a case is that she apparently hasn’t threatened you with bodily harm.) Point is, get a second opinion: what laws¬†do cover Betty’s bad deeds? What kind of evidence do you need to get — and how could you get it? What’s the possibility of a restraining order? Other alternatives or legal recourses? Breakup Girl (1) knows you’ve already spent way too much time dealing with this madness already, (2) can imagine few things more crazy-making, and (3) realizes that it’s not “fair” that you two should spend so much time handling her mishigas, but let’s put that aside: if this really must stop — which it must — it’s time to focus on the nuts and bolts and laws of the land. The behavior you describe is plenty convincing as bad — if not illegal — on its own. Don’t waste your time looking for rational reasons for irrational acts. And don’t waste your time trying to prove to Breakup Girl or anyone else that you two are the stalked, wronged party, that you are Better People who actually pity this poor soul. What-EVER. Align yourselves with the force of law, plain and simple — not the forces of righteousness. Good luck.

Love,
Breakup Girl


Strict Standards: Non-static method GDSRDBCache::get_comments() should not be called statically, assuming $this from incompatible context in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/gd-star-rating/code/class.php on line 1962

3 Comments »

  1. A major cable network and Emmy-award winning documentarians want to hear your story.

    **AIRFARE TO NYC FOR TAPING/HOTEL PROVIDED TO THOSE SELECTED**

    SEEKING EX STORIES (EX BOYFRIEND, EX BFF, EX HUSBAND/WIFE, EX ROOMMATE)

    + A recent photo/headshot (or any snapshot is fine)
    + Your name, phone number, and location in the US
    + A brief (about 300 words) story of your breakup: give us the dramatic details! Tell us your story the way you would on TV! Email to exshowcasting@gmail.com
    + Please note your “ex”s name and whether they would also be willing to participate. (We will do everything we can to make sure you both feel comfortable in our shoot setting, we will film you separately).

    Looking forward to hearing from you!

    Comment by Michael Raptis — July 12, 2012 @ 10:30 am

  2. prophetharry is a caring and wonderful spiritualist. he works with you until you see results. prophetharry@ymail.com is awesome when it comes to love case.

    Comment by anonymous — July 12, 2012 @ 8:02 pm

  3. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. We dated about 4 months. I did everything for him whenever he needed help with something, I love him so much and cared about him a lot. I never asked anything from him. I have no kids and a good well paying job. Everything was so perfect and good between us. He told me he would take me ring shopping and we would settle down and have a baby together. Everything was great. We met each other families and everyone told us we were perfect for each other. Out of nowhere he surprisingly left me to be with another girl, so i met a friend who gave me this Phone number + 1 9 7 1 5 1 2 6 7 4 5 of this spell caster Robinson to contact him, i contacted him because i was so heartbroken and don’t know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting Mr Robinson , my lover came back to me

    Comment by Anonymous — July 6, 2014 @ 12:15 pm

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

**Mean or otherwise out-of-line comments will be deleted. That’s just how we roll.


Strict Standards: Redefining already defined constructor for class sk2_plugin in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/SK2/sk2_plugin_class.php on line 45

Strict Standards: Declaration of sk2_captcha_plugin::output_plugin_UI() should be compatible with sk2_plugin::output_plugin_UI($output_dls = true) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/SK2/sk2_plugins/sk2_captcha_plugin.php on line 70

Strict Standards: Declaration of sk2_pjw_simpledigest::output_plugin_UI() should be compatible with sk2_plugin::output_plugin_UI($output_dls = true) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/SK2/sk2_plugins/sk2_pjw_daily_digest_plugin.php on line 277

Strict Standards: Declaration of sk2_rbl_plugin::treat_this() should be compatible with sk2_plugin::treat_this(&$cmt_object) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/SK2/sk2_plugins/sk2_rbl_plugin.php on line 342

Strict Standards: Declaration of sk2_referrer_check_plugin::output_plugin_UI() should be compatible with sk2_plugin::output_plugin_UI($output_dls = true) in /home/cdkalb/breakupgirl.net/blog/wp-content/plugins/SK2/sk2_plugins/sk2_referrer_check_plugin.php on line 78
[breakupgirl.net]

blog | advice | comics | animation | goodies | to do | archive | about us

Breakup Girl created by Lynn Harris & Chris Kalb
© 2008 Just Friends Productions, Inc.
| privacy policy
Cool Aid!

Important Breakup Girl Maxim:
Breakup Girl Sez

MORE COMICS...

Powered by WordPress