Big To Do
About Us

“Saving Love Lives The World Over!” e-mail e-mail to a friend in need

December 13, 2012

Age: I’m 16, he’s 33, and yet people can’t accept our love which, by the way, he wants to keep a secret

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:14 am

That ain’t right on November 30, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I would just like to start by saying you have a brilliant page here…..

Well I’m 16 and I am dating a 33 year old man. We have been together for 5 months nearly. But the problem is not me or him, it’s everyone else. No one I know can understand or accept it. They all believe he is using me and that he doesn’t care for me. I don’t know what to think anymore because it feels as if both sides are brainwashing me. I believe he does care for me, and pray that he wouldn’t be just using me, as I lost my virginity to this man.

I sometimes hope I am not with him just so I can feel special and wanted, becuase he definitely makes me feel good about myself. My mother doesn’t know, but my friend’s can’t praise me for him anyway.

The only major problem in this relationship is that he wants it to be a secret…he doesn’t want other people knowing of it, and when we meet each other it’s always in secret, non-populated areas. Plus I must admit all he wants to do all the time is talk about sex and when we will be doing it next. But he always tells me he loves me. I’m so confused…

I just want to know is there anyway that this man could really be in love with me?

— Feeling Used

Dear Feeling,

Bad news, then good news. Ready?

Bad news: this one’s actually not about age difference, though you may think that’s why folks can’t “accept” it. Here it comes, kiddo: 10 to 1, he’s married.

Good news: you’re not with him just so you can feel special and wanted. Because you don’t feel that way. Because if you did, you wouldn’t have written. Because I’m hoping that sneaking behind the barn with some guy who hasn’t asked you your opinion on campaign finance reform lately is not your idea of feeling special and wanted.

Here’s the logic that’s tripping you up, according to our wise Belleruth. You think:

1. I would lose my virginity only in a really special relationship. And:

2. I lost my virginity in this relationship. Therefore:

3. This must be a really special relationship.

You see how that goes? Now that these wires are exposed, see if you can untangle yourself from them.

Hang on, here’s more good news: you don’t have to decide is he or isn’t he, does he or doesn’t he. What-EVER. What you do have to decide is: Is this what I want? Cause Feeling, what if you could be dating a guy who would walk into a room — a brightly lit, crowded room — with you and say (even just imply), “Hey, everyone, this is my superfly girlfriend who makes a huge difference in my life, sex- and otherwise. She rules. I am so proud and fortunate to be with her!” Think about it. What if you could date a guy you could show off to your mom? Think about it. What if you could date a guy who could bond with your friends (’cause they’re, like, peers)? Think about it. ‘Cause sweetie, here’s the best news of all: you don’t even know what good is. Now go get it.

Breakup Girl

PS: If you’re nervous about actually doing the breakup deed, write me back, okay?

PPS: Even though I said it only in passing, I meant it: pick on someone your own age. For one thing, don’t just absorb what all those old — and recent — movies tell you: that way younger women with way older men is, like, normal, even cool. Apparently, Meryl Streep once said: “Hollywood must stop feeding the myth that it’s a good fantasy for a girl to want to grow up, stop eating and at 25, marry a 60 year old and have a fabulous 10 years escorting him into his dotage. That’s a time honored fantasy for him. What’s hers?” Yeah. What’s yours?

No Comments »

  1. Greetings from Los angeles! I’m bored to tears
    at work so I decided to check out your site on my iphone during
    lunch break. I enjoy the information you provide here and can’t wait to
    take a look when I get home. I’m amazed at how quick your
    blog loaded on my mobile .. I’m not even using WIFI, just 3G ..

    Anyhow, excellent blog!

    Comment by quest bars — February 19, 2016 @ 3:20 am

  2. I think this is among the most significant info for me.
    And i am glad reading your article. But want to remark on some general things,
    The web site style is wonderful, the articles is really nice :
    D. Good job, cheers

    Comment by quest bars — February 19, 2016 @ 11:10 am

  3. Howdy! This post couldn’t be written any better!

    Reading this post reminds me of my good old room mate!
    He always kept talking about this. I will forward this article
    to him. Pretty sure he will have a good read. Many
    thanks for sharing!

    Comment by minecraft.exe — February 21, 2016 @ 2:59 pm

  4. Incredible points. Outstanding arguments. Keep up the good effort.

    Comment by plenty of fish dating site of free dating — February 23, 2016 @ 7:20 am

  5. Your style is very unique compared to other folks I’ve read stuff from.
    Thanks for posting when you’ve got the opportunity, Guess I’ll just
    book mark this web site.

    Comment by plenty of fish dating site of free dating — February 23, 2016 @ 12:59 pm

  6. Heya! I know this is kind of off-topic however I had to ask.
    Does building a well-established website such as
    yours take a lot of work? I’m brand new to blogging but I do
    write in my diary daily. I’d like to start a blog so I can easily share
    my own experience and views online. Please let me know if you have any kind of recommendations or tips for
    new aspiring bloggers. Thankyou!

    Comment by polo ralph lauren — March 3, 2016 @ 11:20 pm

  7. Hi, i read your blog occasionally and i own a similar one and i was just
    wondering if you get a lot of spam remarks? If so how do you prevent it, any plugin or anything you can recommend?
    I get so much lately it’s driving me crazy so any support is very much appreciated.

    Comment by Limewire Free Music Downloads — March 7, 2016 @ 12:44 pm

  8. Heya i’m for the first time here. I found
    this board and I find It really useful & it helped me out a lot.
    I hope to give something back and help others like you helped me.

    Comment by Limewire Free Music Downloads — March 8, 2016 @ 2:55 am

  9. buy priligy online singapore vgcbta buy priligy in newcastle gxhdzt cheapprilgy.com rmavrk

    Comment by DuncanDalt — March 13, 2016 @ 9:12 pm

  10. buy Priligy okurhx priligy 90mg dmxegf cheapprilgy.com ganoep

    Comment by DuncanDalt — March 14, 2016 @ 12:01 am

  11. purchase clomid online prescription gcpryu buy clomid without prescription hafqlm http://clomdon.com/#purchase-clomid-online-prescription-www.breakupgirl.net ehpfys

    Comment by Jeffreyel — March 15, 2016 @ 5:21 am

  12. purchase clomid online become pregnant bydoen is nolvadex legal buy clomid tineqv http://clomdon.com/#purchase-clomid-online-become-pregnant-www.breakupgirl.net ijsgnq

    Comment by Jeffreyel — March 15, 2016 @ 5:40 am

  13. clomid no prescription ooujlc to buy clomid fast ynuaxw http://clomdon.com/#clomid-no-prescription-www.breakupgirl.net fliwgo

    Comment by Jeffreyel — March 15, 2016 @ 5:57 am

  14. buy clomid ixnkdc generic clomid at sears frhinz clomdon.com gvjfvl

    Comment by Jeffreyel — March 15, 2016 @ 6:15 am

  15. buy clomid online no prescription drugstore zcklwu how to buy clomid clomiphene nhudid http://clomdon.com/#buy-clomid-online-no-prescription-drugstore-www.breakupgirl.net yhmucn

    Comment by Jeffreyel — March 15, 2016 @ 6:32 am

  16. order clomid iogfba get clomid online xzbolt clomdon.com tqtlxu

    Comment by WilliamJup — March 26, 2016 @ 12:49 am

  17. Greetings from Florida! I’m bored at work so I
    decided to check out your site on my iphone during lunch break.
    I enjoy the information you present here and can’t wait to take a look when I get home.
    I’m surprised at how fast your blog loaded on my cell phone ..
    I’m not even using WIFI, just 3G .. Anyways, awesome blog!

    Comment by bernie sanders — March 31, 2016 @ 11:55 am

  18. I know this if off topic but I’m looking into starting my own weblog and was curious what all is required to get setup?
    I’m assuming having a blog like yours would cost a pretty penny?

    I’m not very web savvy so I’m not 100% sure. Any recommendations or advice would be greatly appreciated.
    Thank you

    Comment by bernie sanders — March 31, 2016 @ 10:48 pm

  19. Thanks for your personal marvelous posting! I really enjoyed reading it, you’re a great author.
    I will make sure to bookmark your blog and definitely
    will come back in the foreseeable future. I want to encourage you to continue
    your great job, have a nice afternoon!

    Comment by bernie sanders — April 1, 2016 @ 1:40 am

  20. buy priligy in geelong tmynqp buy priligy in hougang online bbyedx scincworldel.com buy priligy in geelong njlybe

    Comment by ThomasWem — April 8, 2016 @ 9:34 pm

  21. priligy price malaysia qmeerj buy priligy in maroobra svyzug scincworldel.com priligy price malaysia ffocdi

    Comment by ThomasWem — April 8, 2016 @ 10:57 pm

  22. priligy taiwan qorzrn buy priligy in geelong qazrvm scincworldel.com priligy taiwan eukpxo

    Comment by ThomasWem — April 9, 2016 @ 4:29 am

  23. buy priligy dapoxetine united states hvdmvu priligy alternatives online qbhvyu scincworldel.com buy priligy dapoxetine united states wmcpju

    Comment by ThomasWem — April 11, 2016 @ 5:07 pm

  24. uk shops to buy roaccutane vjmcxs buy cheap accutane free shipping yiwufk scincworldel.com uk shops to buy roaccutane jqclck

    Comment by Matthewlaf — April 13, 2016 @ 3:23 am

  25. priligy taiwan miepzn buy priligy in orange http://www.ranky.sk/index.php?url=www.svenskafans.com/ex.aspx?t=helveticbackcountry.ch/category/priligy.html wuoxep

    Comment by Matthewlaf — April 14, 2016 @ 10:12 pm

  26. buy priligy in sydney online efiyrq buy priligy in alor setar online http://cloudytags.com/common/go2link.php?desturl=helveticbackcountry.ch/category/priligy.html kgcaew

    Comment by Matthewlaf — April 15, 2016 @ 2:18 am

  27. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about air jordan. Regards

    Comment by air jordan pas cher — April 18, 2016 @ 8:59 pm

  28. Paragraph writing is also a fun, if you know afterward you can write if not it
    is complex to write.

    Comment by A New Way Of Life — April 30, 2016 @ 11:12 am

  29. I like reading through an article that can make people think.
    Also, thank you for allowing for me to comment!

    Comment by Sac Longchamp Pliage — May 1, 2016 @ 10:51 pm

  30. Hmm it appears like your site ate my first comment (it was
    extremely long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I had written and say,
    I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I too am an aspiring blog blogger
    but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any points for rookie blog writers?
    I’d really appreciate it.

    Comment by unsully — May 1, 2016 @ 11:01 pm

  31. Pretty! This was an extremely wonderful article. Thank you
    for supplying this info.

    Comment by Xem — May 2, 2016 @ 11:06 am

  32. Appreciate the recommendation. Let me try it out.

    Comment by printed t shirts online — May 2, 2016 @ 8:20 pm

  33. VIO脱毛|Iライン脱毛|ハイジニーナ脱毛は意外と早々に|早く|すぐに効果|変化|違いを実感できる|感じる|見ることができるのですが、やはり|一般的には|普通は通常6回ぐらいは来店する必要があるかと思います。かく言う|実際に|体験した私も3回ぐらいで少し薄くなってきた|薄くなった|減ってきたと視認できました|感じました|わかりましたが、完全に自己処理しなくていい|は不要|はいらないレベルだという感触|感じ|手ごたえはまだありません。有料ではない|無料の|お金のかからないIライン脱毛のカウンセリングをいろいろ|いくつか|たくさん回ってちゃんと|きちんと|しっかりと店舗|脱毛サロン|脱毛エステを比較参照し、あらゆる脱毛サロンや脱毛エステのうち、あなた自身の理想に沿う|イメージに合った|好みに合った脱毛専門エステを掘り当てましょう|見つけましょう|発見しましょう。

    Comment by iライン脱毛 — May 3, 2016 @ 2:30 pm

  34. This accounts for the space between her breasts,
    and the fact that she really can’t move them together to get midline cleavage, ala Dolly Parton. Most men who
    are suffering from gynecomastia are in great confusion and dilemma that
    they often wonder what they will become when they walk
    around with those women-like breasts. Pamela Anderson may be seen as a
    synonym in the dictionary for breast implants.

    Comment by xxx — May 3, 2016 @ 4:56 pm

  35. Hey there excellent website! Does running a blog such as this take a great deal
    of work? I’ve no understanding of programming but I had been hoping to start my own blog in the near future.
    Anyhow, should you have any ideas or tips for new blog owners please share.

    I know this is off subject but I simply wanted to ask.
    Many thanks!

    Comment by prediksi togel terjitu — May 3, 2016 @ 8:05 pm

  36. 我々人間が常日頃から少しずつでも摂取しておかなければならないミネラルという成分の一つに、亜鉛があります。亜鉛という言葉を耳にして 、そんなに大切なの
    ?という 不思議な疑問が湧いてしまいますが、それも 無理はないでしょう。鉄などのミネラルは、亜鉛と比べてもっと良く知られていて 、俗に言う頭がクラクラするというような貧血に 多くの女性の方が困っている 症状に 直接結びついてしまう
    だけに、 良く知られています。しかし亜鉛の場合、亜鉛とその効果 の 直接の関係が良く知られていないだけに、他のミネラルのように 理解されていないのですが、とても大切 なんですね。例えば、亜鉛の効果
    の一つに 薄毛や抜け毛の予防が挙げられます。 脱毛や抜け毛が気になりはじめたら、意外とこの亜鉛を 補給してみると良いかもしれません。そして、特に男性の 男としての自信についても 重要な関係があります。最近何だか元気がない というような場合、 考えられる原因の一つに、この亜鉛が足りないこと が挙げられるかもしれませんね。また、 味の感覚が最近鈍っているのでは?というような場合にも、この亜鉛が足りないことが 原因として考えられるかもしれません。他にも、女性にとっては、健康なお肌の維持 に多いに役立つ など、
    意外とこの亜鉛って大切な ミネラルなんですよ。そして、この亜鉛 を含んだサプリ」が 注目されているんです。

    Comment by 亜鉛効能効果 — May 4, 2016 @ 1:04 am

  37. gizli kamera

    Comment by gizli kameralar — May 4, 2016 @ 2:08 am

  38. Hey there! I know this is kind of off topic but I was wondering which blog platform are you using for this website?
    I’m getting sick and tired of WordPress because I’ve had issues with hackers and I’m looking at
    options for another platform. I would be fantastic if you could
    point me in the direction of a good platform.

    Comment by gadai bpkb mobil — May 4, 2016 @ 7:32 am

  39. Hello There. I discovered your blog using msn. That is a very well written article.
    I will make sure to bookmark it and come back to read extra of your helpful info.

    Thanks for the post. I’ll certainly return.

    Comment by judi maxbet — May 4, 2016 @ 8:39 am

  40. This blog was… how do I say it? Relevant!! Finally I’ve found something that helped me.

    Appreciate it!

    Comment by website maintenance — May 4, 2016 @ 8:41 am

  41. I’m amazed, I have to admit. Seldom do I encounter a blog that’s
    both equally educative and engaging, and let me tell you, you’ve hit the
    nail on the head. The issue is something which too few people are speaking
    intelligently about. I am very happy that I found this during my hunt for something regarding this.

    Comment by Agen Casino Online — May 4, 2016 @ 9:40 am

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

**Mean or otherwise out-of-line comments will be deleted. That’s just how we roll.


blog | advice | comics | animation | goodies | to do | archive | about us

Breakup Girl created by Lynn Harris & Chris Kalb
© 2008 Just Friends Productions, Inc.
| privacy policy
Cool Aid!

Important Breakup Girl Maxim:
Breakup Girl Sez


Powered by WordPress