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January 17, 2013

My ex-girlfriend is getting married

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 10:22 am

Sucking it up on November 20, 1998...

Dear Breakup Girl,

My ex-girlfriend is getting married. This upset me, BG. When I heard it, I felt like I had been punched in the stomach. Seriously.

Since we broke up about 1 1/2 years ago, I’ve been in touch with my ex in a very lite sense of the word. We had a little post-breakup flirtation that nearly destroyed me since I fell for her again and she didn’t fall for me. She never really gave a reason for our breaking up other than “a lack of a gut feeling…” which drove me crazy. So for the last year or so when we’ve chatted it’s been about my family and her job and things like that, not about whether we were dating or not. So the first I hear of this new guy in her life is that she’s marrying him.

She’s been seeing this guy 7 months and all I know about him is that his name and his age. She’s my age (34) and she’s marrying someone twenty years her senior. I use the word Senior intentionally. She’s moving in with the guy in a house they bought together (this was the girl who wouldn’t let me keep underwear at her place after a 2 1/2 year relationship–who says it’s just men who can’t commit)? It’s a lot to process and I’m not sure what to say other than I’m happy for her (which I’m not) and I wish them the best (which I don’t). Someday I’m sure I’ll grow into a mature state of acceptance but right now I feel like Dustin Hoffman at the end of the Graduate. Except I don’t have a convertible or attractive older women hitting on me.

What does one do in this situation? Help me, Breakup Girl Kenobi. You’re my only hope.

–Bummed Out Boy


Dear Bummed,

Ouch! Punched in the gut, indeed! Just because he pays half-price at the movies doesn’t mean this guy don’t pack a wallop.

What do you do? Just as you have. Clutch your stomach, squeak out a weak “Mazal tov,” and stumble home. Write to Breakup Girl; make fun of him; explain how you feel. Be immature. In private. For a while. Don’t try to be “friends” (or, God forbid, a wedding guest). You will eventually accept it, but it’s not like you’ll celebrate it. Leave it at that. And perhaps, ultimately, it’ll be easier for you this way. “Presence of an engagement ring” — over-doubling though it may feel — offers a firmer sense of closure on this relationship than “lack of a gut feeling.” And just think (while you’re still being immature): when the Senior is convalescing in his adjustable bed, you’ll still be tooling around in your mid-life-crisis convertible.

Love,
Breakup Girl

11 Comments »

  1. Bummed really didn’t read the handwriting on the wall. If someone won’t let you keep minor personal items at their home (toothbrush, a change of clothing, etc.), it’s because they see you as a *temporary* boyfriend/girlfriend.

    Alternatively, they may be cheating on you, and they don’t want any incriminating evidence lying around.

    Regardless, they’re not willing to commit to *you* … even if they’re perfectly willing to commit to someone else.

    If breakup explanations like “lack of a gut feeling” drive you crazy, then I foresee a lifetime of lunacy ahead of you. One of the best things about the (now cliche) “He’s/She’s Just Not That Into You” title is people finally started comprehending that most breakups boil down to that simple sentiment (regardless of the actual explanation).

    You don’t find closure by getting an adequate explanation for the breakup. You find closure by accepting that you *won’t* get an adequate explantion. Move on already.

    Comment by Karl R — January 17, 2013 @ 2:20 pm

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    Comment by charity — January 25, 2013 @ 10:42 pm

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    Comment by RUTH — January 17, 2014 @ 6:46 am

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    Comment by Angela — February 11, 2014 @ 12:21 am

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    Comment by Stacy Blair — March 6, 2014 @ 3:31 am

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    Comment by Marvin Speck — March 14, 2014 @ 9:19 am

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    Comment by frank marian — March 17, 2014 @ 9:56 pm

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    Comment by cecille lajoie — April 7, 2014 @ 9:46 am

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    Comment by Name me — April 8, 2014 @ 7:09 pm

  10. Beware of internet spell caster who are scammers..An amazing testimony on a spell caster who brought my ex husband back to me……….. My Names is Patrica Edward ,AM from United states .i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in June last year on a business summit i meet a man called Dr Goodluck, is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love s gone misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job i m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 4weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3 year i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try and in 6 days when i returned to the state my husband called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my husband’s name and all i wanted him to do well we are happily back now and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help.you can contact him Via email: Drextrapowerghost@gmail.com

    Comment by Patrica Edward — April 18, 2014 @ 6:45 am

  11. I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD’S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE’S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I’M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS… I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN’T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO… WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;okutemple@hotmail.com ……HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT OUR OPPORTUNITY … CONTACT THIS GREAT SPELL CASTER VIA EMAIL:okutemple@hotmail.com

    Comment by james — April 20, 2014 @ 8:43 am

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