Big To Do
About Us

“Saving Love Lives The World Over!” e-mail e-mail to a friend in need

February 28, 2013

The Night Visitor

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:30 am

Ghosts of boyfriends past visiting on December 7, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I feel as though I’m experiencing a sitcom “inner dialogue/fantasy sequence”…it’s so cliche as to be deeply disturbing. I’ve been broken up since February and just recently started dating again…er, and venturing into nakedness with other men…

The problem is I keep thinking of my ex during all “intimate” activities. It’s so distracting that can’t enjoy myself and I feel terribly impolite (even though the guy I’m with has no idea). This has really never happened before. How can I make this ghostly bedfellow disappear??

— Clare

Dear Clare,

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: when you sleep with someone, you sleep with everyone else you’ve slept with.

I mean, you can toss their stuff off the balcony, but the muscle-memory of sex and intimacy will stay much more firmly lodged under your skin. Which means that to some degree — when you get naked with someone new — that ghostly presence in your pores is normal. And thus that to some degree, letting him be — rather than distracting yourself by trying to shove him from your mind — is what will help fade him out.

Also, make sure you actually like these naked boys. ‘Cause that ghost guy might also be Banquo. Wondering: “What are you thinking!?”

Breakup Girl


  1. Its good as your other posts : D, regards for putting up.

    Comment by akcesoria dla lalek — August 17, 2016 @ 5:33 am

  2. After all, what a great site and informative posts, I will upload inbound link – bookmark this web site? Regards, Reader.

    Comment by drapaki dla kotów — August 17, 2016 @ 10:07 am

  3. This design is spectacular! You certainly know how to keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost…HaHa!) Great job. I really loved what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool!

    Comment by Bankruptcy Attorney Garland TX — August 17, 2016 @ 11:53 am

  4. Remarkable issues here. I’m very happy to see your post.
    Thanks a lot and I’m taking a look ahead to contact you.
    Will you kindly drop me a mail?

    Also visit my web blog – ChasMKosik

    Comment by ChasMKosik — August 17, 2016 @ 11:57 am

  5. Hmm it seems like your website ate my first comment (it was extremely long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I wrote and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I too am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to everything. Do you have any tips for rookie blog writers? I’d really appreciate it.

    Comment by Attorney — August 17, 2016 @ 1:26 pm

  6. Wonderful web site. Plenty of useful information here. I?¦m sending it to a few buddies ans also sharing in delicious. And certainly, thanks to your sweat!

    Comment by Top Rated Bankruptcy Lawyers Garland TX — August 17, 2016 @ 2:23 pm

  7. I cherished as much as you will receive carried out right here. The caricature is tasteful, your authored material stylish. however, you command get bought an nervousness over that you wish be handing over the following. unwell definitely come further in the past again as exactly the similar just about a lot often inside case you shield this increase.

    Comment by New Year 2017 Images — August 17, 2016 @ 4:37 pm

  8. WOW just what I was searching for. Came here by searching
    for other

    Stop by my web blog – AlbinaSBesco

    Comment by AlbinaSBesco — August 17, 2016 @ 4:47 pm

  9. The following time I read a weblog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as much as this one. I mean, I know it was my option to read, but I really thought youd have something interesting to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something that you would fix in the event you werent too busy searching for attention.

    Comment by New Year 2017 Images — August 17, 2016 @ 6:59 pm

  10. I pay a simple visit everyday a couple of blogs and information sites
    to learn articles or reviews, except this website offers feature based writing.

    Feel free to visit my blog: GradyVKotson

    Comment by GradyVKotson — August 17, 2016 @ 9:54 pm

  11. My developer is attempting to convince me to maneuver to .net from PHP.

    I actually have always disliked the concept due to the expenses.
    But he’s tryiong none the less. I’ve been using WordPress on several
    websites for approximately annually and am nervous about
    switching to another one platform. I actually have heard
    really good things about blogengine.net. Is there a way I could transfer all
    of my wordpress content into it? Any help would be greatly appreciated!

    Feel free to surf to my webpage; RuthieWOrpen

    Comment by RuthieWOrpen — August 17, 2016 @ 11:45 pm

  12. Yay google is my queen aided me to find this great website ! .

    Comment by Chicago Web Design Company — August 18, 2016 @ 10:00 am

  13. I read through this component of writing fully about the resemblance
    of newest and previous technologies, it’s remarkable article.

    my web site; JoeAMccort

    Comment by JoeAMccort — August 18, 2016 @ 10:24 am

  14. Great article and straight to the point. I don’t know if this is in fact the best place to ask but do you folks have any ideea where to get some professional writers? Thanks :)

    Comment by Chicago Web Design — August 18, 2016 @ 11:38 am

  15. Spot on with this write-up, I actually suppose this website needs far more consideration. I’ll most likely be once more to read much more, thanks for that info.

    Comment by Web Designers Chicago — August 18, 2016 @ 12:09 pm

  16. I’ve been absent for a while, but now I remember why I used to love this website. Thank you, I?¦ll try and check back more frequently. How frequently you update your website?

    Comment by App Development Chicago — August 18, 2016 @ 2:19 pm

  17. Wow, superb weblog layout! How long have you ever been running a blog for? you make running a blog glance easy. The total glance of your site is magnificent, let alone the content!

    Comment by Chicago App Developers — August 18, 2016 @ 4:22 pm

  18. Wohh exactly what I was searching for, appreciate it for posting.

    Comment by App Development Company Chicago — August 18, 2016 @ 4:47 pm

  19. I loved as much as you’ll receive carried out right here. The sketch is attractive, your authored subject matter stylish.
    nonetheless, you command get bought an edginess
    over that you wish be delivering the following. unwell unquestionably come more formerly again since exactly the same nearly a lot often inside case you shield this hike.

    Feel free to visit my web-site – BenBDeluccia

    Comment by BenBDeluccia — August 19, 2016 @ 12:08 pm

  20. Thank you, I have just been looking for info approximately this topic for ages
    and yours is the best I’ve discovered till now. However,
    what in regards to the bottom line? Are you sure
    about the source?

    My website … FritzKHittle

    Comment by FritzKHittle — August 19, 2016 @ 3:23 pm

  21. I’m not sure why but this website is loading incredibly slow for me.
    Is anyone else having this problem or is it a issue on my end?
    I’ll check back later and see if the problem still exists.

    Also visit my blog post … PeterVDooner

    Comment by PeterVDooner — August 20, 2016 @ 5:12 am

  22. I understand this site provides quality based articles and additional material, is there almost every other
    website which offers such stuff in quality?

    Also visit my homepage; AthenaACouey

    Comment by AthenaACouey — August 20, 2016 @ 5:30 am

  23. Thanks to your personal marvelous posting!

    I seriously enjoyed reading it, you may well be
    a fantastic author. I am going to be sure to bookmark your blog and may come back in the future.
    I wish to encourage yourself to continue your great work, have got a nice afternoon!

    my website: PabloEKauahi

    Comment by PabloEKauahi — August 20, 2016 @ 8:44 am

  24. Hello my friend! I wish to say that this article is awesome, nice written and include approximately all vital infos. I’d like to see more posts like this.

    Comment by world email lists — August 20, 2016 @ 9:27 am

  25. Hi there! I really planned to ask if you happen to possess any trouble with hackers?
    My last blog (wordpress) was hacked and I ended up being losing many months of perseverance on account of no data
    backup. Do you have any methods to prevent hackers?

    My site … MayOCowger

    Comment by MayOCowger — August 20, 2016 @ 4:09 pm

  26. You really help it become appear really easy along with your
    presentation however I find this matter to become really a very important factor
    that I feel I’d never understand. It form of feels too complex and very broad in my opinion. I’m having
    a look forward for your subsequent publish, I’ll make an attempt to have the grasp of it!

    my website: EmileQAllain

    Comment by EmileQAllain — August 23, 2016 @ 4:52 am

  27. wonderful post, very informative. I wonder why the other specialists of this sector do not notice this. You should continue your writing. I am sure, you’ve a great readers’ base already!

    Comment by english teaching jobs Shanghai — August 23, 2016 @ 6:47 am

  28. You should take part in a contest for the most effective blogs on the web. I’ll suggest this website!

    Comment by teach english in Shanghai — August 23, 2016 @ 7:22 am

  29. Wow that was strange. I just wrote an very long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyways, just wanted to say fantastic blog!

    Comment by diving in malapascua — August 23, 2016 @ 9:49 am

  30. diet plans for women to lose weight
    diet plans for women to lose weight http://j.mp/2bdJlsE

    Comment by diet plans for women to lose weight — August 25, 2016 @ 11:43 am

  31. Link exchange is definitely not else but it is
    actually only placing another person’s website link in your page at suitable place along with other person will even do same in favor of you.

    Check out my web-site – LukeVMcbride

    Comment by LukeVMcbride — August 25, 2016 @ 10:18 pm

  32. Wonderful beat ! I wish to apprentice while you amend your web site, how can i subscribe for a blog web site? The account helped me a acceptable deal. I had been a little bit acquainted of this your broadcast provided bright clear idea

    Comment by kawa kenia — August 26, 2016 @ 3:55 am

  33. I have learn some good stuff here. Definitely value bookmarking for revisiting. I surprise how a lot attempt you set to create this sort of fantastic informative web site.

    Comment by kawa jamajka — August 26, 2016 @ 6:13 am

  34. whoah this weblog is great i love studying your posts. Stay up the great work! You already know, many persons are looking around for this info, you can help them greatly.

    Comment by produkty dla chomików — August 26, 2016 @ 7:10 am

  35. Great article! That may be the particular information that are supposed to be shared throughout the web.
    Shame on the seek engines for not positioning this build higher!
    Come on over and seek advice from my website .

    Thanks =)

    My webpage StevieLKnuth

    Comment by StevieLKnuth — August 26, 2016 @ 10:39 am

  36. You made some good points there. I looked on the web to learn more about the issue
    and found a lot of people will go with your views on this site.

    My web-site :: JoelUSkrip

    Comment by JoelUSkrip — August 26, 2016 @ 7:13 pm

  37. I was very pleased to find this net-site.I needed to thanks for your time for this wonderful learn!! I positively having fun with each little little bit of it and I have you bookmarked to take a look at new stuff you weblog post.

    Comment by site — August 27, 2016 @ 3:18 am

  38. I’m extremely pleased to learn this web site.
    I have to to thanks a lot for ones time just for this fantastic read!!
    I definitely liked every amount of it and i do you have book-marked to look at new stuff on your
    own website.

    Stop by my webpage … DianneLVoros

    Comment by DianneLVoros — August 27, 2016 @ 5:58 pm

  39. Hello! I could have sworn I’ve been to this blog before but after browsing through some of the post I realized it’s new to me. Anyways, I’m definitely happy I found it and I’ll be book-marking and checking back frequently!

    Comment by radio taxi athens greece — August 29, 2016 @ 10:21 am

RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URL

Leave a comment

**Mean or otherwise out-of-line comments will be deleted. That’s just how we roll.


blog | advice | comics | animation | goodies | to do | archive | about us

Breakup Girl created by Lynn Harris & Chris Kalb
© 2008 Just Friends Productions, Inc.
| privacy policy
Cool Aid!

Important Breakup Girl Maxim:
Breakup Girl Sez


Powered by WordPress