Baby, its cold outside. (Finally!) What
a perfect opportunity to -- now that youve gotten
cozy with The Big To Do -- stay in there and meet people! Thats why its
time -- finally! -- for Breakup Girl to devote a column theme to:
Browsing for Love in All the Right Places
Of course, devoting one column theme to Internet romance is like devoting one
month to womens history. And, of course, I touch on the topic just about every
week anyway. But I thought -- especially since I forgot my boots today -- Id
stay here where its warm and make some key points about taking your real-life
love life (RLLL) on line ... and back IRL again.
A few words in favor of meeting people online.
Studies show that approximately one bazillion people use the Internet to meet
and greet -- why, look at all
these people! -- and (if things dont work out) delete. Surely you know
that matchmaking / personals services, chat rooms (singleswithoutmakeup.com)
and the like are veritable hotbeds of...hot beds. Oh, and also wholesome courtships.
And rightly so. Being on the cybermake allows you to cast a net wider than your
block (or your office) but narrower than "the bar scene;" to break
the ice and give the shy a leg/word up when you meet IRL, to test the waters
without risking that "shaved my legs for nothing" feeling, and (ideally) without
judging / being judged on the relatively superficial.
So I will say that I was surprised by a recent study for Harlequin Enterprises
-- that Harlequin -- in which only 3% of  women say theyve dated
a guy they met online; 83% say they wouldnt even consider it. So where do they
meet? 31% say "work or school," and 30% say "other." I can
only assume that "other" is comprised of people who responded (a)
"on the moors" and (b) "Well, we did meet on the Internet, but
I wont admit it."
Come on, you guys. If you meet one of those other terrific "I dont meet
people online" people online but are afraid to admit it because of what
people will think -- well, Ill tell you what theyll think. Theyll think:
"Gotta try that."