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Dear Breakup Girl,
You see there is this one girl I really like, but I don't have the guts to
ask her out because of past experiences with girls I have dated. I really like
her, but I don't know what I should say to break the ice. We have the same interests
She is one of those girls I would be really mad if she got away. We always
talk and I can tell her anything...but I'm not sure how to break it to her that
I like her.
Hey, kiddo, here's the thing about those "past experiences."
Once-dissed, twice-shy, I'm sure. But you
can look at those experiences, whatever they were, in one of two ways: either
skin-thinners, or skin-thickeners.
These crushes or relationships may not have survived, but you'll note, if grudgingly,
that you did.
And you know what, no matter what did or didn't happen
in your past, you'd be nervous about this gig with this gal anyway. Hey, that's
how you know you LIKElike her.
So what to do? As I told Steve,
remember the handydandy difference between Telling Someone
How You FEEL About Them!!! and just up and asking
them out. Asking them out is telling them how
you feel, Lite. And bonus: you already know you have common
interests. So no big production
needed: in your next conversation, why not suggest that you maybe do
one of those interests instead of just talking about it? Bet she'll share your
interest in not letting her get away.
"What does it mean when he doesn't call?"