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Dear Breakup Girl,

You see there is this one girl I really like, but I don't have the guts to ask her out because of past experiences with girls I have dated. I really like her, but I don't know what I should say to break the ice. We have the same interests and everything.

She is one of those girls I would be really mad if she got away. We always talk and I can tell her anything...but I'm not sure how to break it to her that I like her.

Please Help!

-- Jose

Dear Jose,

Hey, kiddo, here's the thing about those "past experiences." Once-dissed, twice-shy, I'm sure. But you can look at those experiences, whatever they were, in one of two ways: either skin-thinners, or skin-thickeners. These crushes or relationships may not have survived, but you'll note, if grudgingly, that you did.

And you know what, no matter what did or didn't happen in your past, you'd be nervous about this gig with this gal anyway. Hey, that's how you know you LIKElike her.

So what to do? As I told Steve, remember the handydandy difference between Telling Someone How You FEEL About Them!!! and just up and asking them out. Asking them out is telling them how you feel, Lite. And bonus: you already know you have common interests. So no big production needed: in your next conversation, why not suggest that you maybe do one of those interests instead of just talking about it? Bet she'll share your interest in not letting her get away.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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