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Well, it's Labor Day. Official last day to wear white shoes or face
and also: official last day of summer romance. Or
not. After all, we do have New Year's Eve: In Search of ... a Date to
consider. I do thus worry a bit that from this day forward, people may stay
in current relationships -- perhaps in particular those that go from hot summer
to lukewarm -- a bit longer than they mean to. So: whether you're spending
31 in the shadow of the Sphinx or in your flat with your cat, here's an
riddle: what do you do when the person you're dating is
Where do you store that fuzzy "something's missing" feeling?
not in your "drawer" chez the person you've lined up to fill the
Are you just chasing champagne kisses and caviar
Is it truly your Gut saying "...But?" And what kind of an
do you feel like for being dissatisfied by someone so "terrific?"
This question's not quite on the grand, pillared scale of The Porch Test I
offer for determining the answer to "I Do ... Or
Do I?" Here, we're not necessarily talking about anything massive,
like marriage -- hey, we're merely talking about whether you should stay
together, let's say, 'til the start of the next millennium. That's all.
Which, of course, gives us the perfect test right there. As much as Auld
Date pressure makes me squirm, well, let's go there: can you picture
yourself smooching that person at that special stroke? Not just because your
biological clock is bonging midnight, not just because you're saving your arm
candy from Halloween. I mean really. If you could choose anyone to be
with at that moment, with the possible exclusion of movie stars, fictional
or Marc Anthony (I'm working on it), would it be that person? Hey, I'm
just offering you spumanti for thought, a new way to weigh this one over the
next couple months (especially now that some of your fashion choices are being
made for you). I mean, I'm not asking you to actually plan that night
right now. And as much as I feel alone in the world sometimes, I
I'm alone in the world on that.
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