Breakup Girl: The Book
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A Superhero's Guide to Love, and Lack Thereof
Now saving love lives at a bookstore near you!
Now you can take Breakup Girl with you wherever you go! Lynn Harris and Chris
Kalb have created a compendium of columns, comics, advice, and asides that bring
together the best elements of breakupgirl.net -- all in an edgy "old-school"
Breakup Girl to the Rescue! guides readers -- men and women alike
-- through the crucial stages of heartache and healing: the After, the Before,
and the During. From Breakups 101, to the rediscovery of dating, to navigating
your new relationship, BGTTR leads you toward better days with BG's
trademark wit and wisdom.
-- Breakup Girl begins at the end because, if you think about it, the last day
of your old relationship is the first day you start building a foundation for
a new one.
-- Rather than scoot you into a relationship, BG wants you to enjoy your singlehood.
She'll help you make sure that when you decide to jump, it's the right time
and the right person.
-- When you do become the opposite of single, BG's right there to help you tackle
the totally worth-it world of being attached.
Breakup Girl to the Rescue! also features a brand new, extended
dance mix "Adventures of Breakup Girl" comic from award-winning illustrator
and BG Co-Creator Chris Kalb. Fans of the online comic will finally discover
the origins of BG's nemesis Ex Luthor... only in BGTTR!
The book also includes Important BG Maxims, BG Talking Points, and data points
from polls conducted on breakupgirl.net!
AND NOW ...
A SELECTION FROM RELATIONSHIPS: AFTER
Doing the Deed:
A Step-by-Step Guide
This is not the part of the book where you spend a lot of time figuring out
whether or not you should break up. You've got entire relationships to do that.
By now, I trust, you've figured out that the feeling you've got to follow is
not the one in your head that says, "But statistics show that my chances
of finding someone else will decrease dramatically if I become single now."
It is not the one in your heart that says, "but I can't hurt my love's feelings!"
... It is not the one in your loins that says, "[Unprintable matter.]"...
It is the one in your gut that says, "OW OW OW OW OW OW OW, but this is
the Right Thing to Do. OW OW OW."
If you promise me that that's the feeling you're following, then it's time for
In Defense of the Dumper
Dumpers, like lawyers, are universally reviled in an unfair, knee-jerk way.
Contrary to popular belief, however, dumpers are people too. ... You dumpers
of the world -- if you are kind -- are brave. ... I get just as many letters
from agonized dumpers as I do from their (ex-) counterparts. ...
Important Breakup Girl Maxim:|
Let your ex be mad because you broke up with him/her. Not because of how you broke
up with him/her.
A SELECTION FROM RELATIONSHIPS: BEFORE
From Friends to More Than
So you've got this great friend. You do everything together: shop, hang, talk,
work out, talk about your lame love lives and NATO expansion. You know each
other's families; you take care of each other's plants. You fend off friends'
suggestions that you should be a couple, saying, "No way, that would be
But then, somehow, you realized that what you really want to do together...
is the one thing you haven't done together. ... Ugh. So what are you going to
do? Especially 'cause you can't ask your, uh, friend for advice. Well, that's
where I come in.
Diagnosis: More than Friends?
Here's what to ask yourself:
1. What flavor of friend are we? Are you longtime pals from, like, before
you were old enough to date? ... Or are you more recent friends who, for whatever
reason, have never had the chance to upgrade? There's no one right way to proceed
in either case; I'm just trying to help you calibrate your feelings. ...
2. Is the crush enhancing the friendship or interfering with it? I can
say with professional and personal certainty that men and women (or same-sex
pals) can be "just friends." But that doesn't mean you haven't wondered
"what if?" about practically everyone you know, and it doesn't mean
you don't develop crushes from time to time. ...
G E T T I N G T H E D I G I T S
|A "Friend," Indeed
Sixty-eight percent of BG readers have turned a friendship into
a relationship! Eleven percent did that thing called "Friends who
If you broke up, did you stay friends? Most say, "Yes, but
it wasn't the same."
How did the transition happen? Tie (37 percent) between "A
mutual 'Let's see what happens' discussion" and "An 'I Can't
Fight This Feeling Anymore' speech by one partner." Runner-up: "An
'I Can't Fight This Feeling Anymore' collapse into bed."
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What they're saying about Breakup Girl to the Rescue...
"Lynn Harris has done for the failing relationship what
Jonas Salk did for polio. I want my stuff back."
-- Dr. Katz, Professional Therapist
"Heartache is hell. Breakup Girl makes it swell."
-- Cynthia Rowley and Ilene Rosenzweig, authors of Swell
"Breakup Girl has become a star."
-- New York Times
"A seriously smart and insightful heroine for the new
millennium, Lynn Harris's Breakup Girl is a Joan of Arc for the brokenhearted,
a combination Scarlett O'Hara, Mae West, Dear Abby, and Dorothy Parker."
-- Regina Barreca, author of Perfect Husbands (and Other Fairy Tales)
"Breakup Girl to the Rescue! uses a clever, knowing voice
and a soothing touch to make all the difference on a very tricky subject."
-- Judith Sills, psychologist, author of A Fine Romance and Excess Baggage
"Men, women, and everyone in between can turn to Breakup
Girl to the Rescue! for razor-sharp advice and a shoulder to cry on. Wise, witty,
funny, and compassionate, she's a true superhero with a voice and a mind of
-- Shayrn Wolf, C.S.W., author of Guerilla Dating Tactics