Upgrading Your Bad Self
by Sherise Dorf
Sure, lots of Cosmo readers may meet their men while roving supermarket
aisles, but how feasible is it to check out fellow shoppers and come up
with scintillating small talk while squeezing fruit? Sounds like major multi-tasking
to moi. There has to be a better way.
Use the strengths of the city you live in to map out a practical "putting yourself
out there" strategy. Los Angeles, for example, is known as the city of
so what better way to meet a potential mate than while improving yourself? When
you're both working on ways to be more interesting/in shape/funny/artistic/creative/coordinated?
Now, the upside to taking on a new hobby, or what I'll call a "learning challenge,"
is that, in a perfect world, the other people taking on the same new learning
challenge will share your interests and have similar skills -- or lack thereof.
This provides for no shortage of dating dynamics. Will you be competitive peers,
helpful teacher to his/her helpless student, or some other tangled combination
of master and apprentice?
All the World's a Stage
Hollywood, the finest example
of people-finding-people plays out against the glamorous backdrop of the Golden
Globe Awards. Watching Winona and Matt, Gwyneth and (best bud) Ben, Barbra and
James, variously snuggling, whispering, poking
each other and giggling on television the other night, the following thought
occurred to me: if you're single and you earn millions of dollars each year
for memorizing lines and looking good on camera, then who you'll date/sleep
with next is easily determined by who you'll meet on your next set. Or at a
party hosted by Instyle Magazine.
That said, why not learn to
act? Even if you never achieve fame or fortune once you've mastered your
new talent, think of how many attractive and/or funny would-be
Thespians you'll meet at each and every audition you attend. And remember,
there's nothing wrong with the people who don't get the parts. Chances are,
they're feeling rejected
and vulnerable and will be most open to receiving nice words and/or an invitation
from a complete stranger. "That casting director's crazy!" could be your line.
"You're the perfect for the role of ________, and I've been wanting to take
you to coffee/drinks/dinner/bed ever since I saw you standing there, rehearsing
Sit and Spin
On the other hand, maybe the fine arts
are more your style. If you're shy, consider a class in which you won't have
to open your mouth at all: pottery. A friend recently dove back into the world
of ceramics at the MOA Center in West Hollywood. As he explains it, there are
different levels depending on how well you handle your clay, yet everyone sits
and spins their wheel or hand builds their vessel together in one feel-good-about-your-pots-sort-of-space,
so there's plenty of opportunity to get to know other potters, who range in
And twice a year, the school throws a blowout sale, so that if you're ultra-proud
of your work (or just want to earn enough cash to take the next class) you can
stand behind it and sell sell sell. You never know who might fancy your offerings
and end up the new owner of your favorite pot (and phone number!).
Master Your Domain
me crazy, [Sherise, you're crazy. -ed.] but why
pay a Feng Shui expert an hourly rate to consult you on how to get your abode
into "God-help-me-this-year-I'm throwing-out-the-past- and-delving-straight-into-my-love/ sex/success-filled
future" when you can learn
how to do so yourself?
Turns out the American Feng Shui Institute
is located in Greater Los Angeles (code for, not in Hollywood or Beverly Hills,
but so what?) and according to their Web site, it "draws the best students from
all over the globe." If you're thinking, big deal, maybe I'll meet someone from
as far as Fresno, think again: join now and you'll take your seat alongside
the best that Iceland, Italy, Japan, Turkey, New
Zealand, Germany, and Abu Dubai (known for sexy men) have to offer!
Not interested in "gaining the knowledge of how to manipulate your surroundings
such that you make an impact on your finances, health and emotions?" The Institute
also offers other classes in the Chinese Arts, such as "Four Pillars," a method
of Chinese Astrology that can be used to analyze a personality or... (drum roll
please) choose a mate!
Okay, so maybe none of you in Nebraska are going to rearrange the ranch house
based on Chinese teachings. And perhaps you'd be the sole student willing to
stride onstage in South Dakota. But if these particular classes aren't available
where you live, you can be sure there's somebody down the road who's just dying
to help you pick up a new skill. So start planning your own strategy for self-improvement
-- if only so you'll never have to dress up for another trip to the supermarket!
iscurrently trying to set up friends of hers in Los Angeles, New York, and
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