Are You Ready to Rumble?
Test Your Relationship Readiness
or, I'd Love To, But I've Got Six More Weeks of Pining Scheduled...
by Danielle Zeitlen
Admit it, we've all taken a quiz in a magazine in order to find out if we were
meant to be with our mates, only to discover that we were about as compatible
as Sue and Kelly of Survivor.
Of course at the time, we wrote off this seeming incompatibility as the result
of a stupid survey perpetuated by ignorant magazine editors who couldn't possibly
know just how perfect we were with our then-sweeties. Three months later, when
the relationship dissolved like the Wicked
Witch of the West, we conveniently forgot all about the quiz which so eerily
predicted our demise.
Not that magazine quizzes are an authentic diagnostic tool for all relationships,
but there are some questions you can ask that will help you -- after you've
been kicked about by the demon Heartbreak -- to determine if you're ready to
get back in the saddle.
Question 1: Can You Leave the Office?
ladder" we hear so much about is called a ladder
for a reason. You're supposed to climb it slowly and carefully. If it were a
corporate razor scooter, everyone
would be on one. Many of us cope with a breakup by throwing ourselves into our
jobs. If you like the view from the top and are 100 percent dedicated to your
career, you may want to think about whether you can honestly make time for a
relationship, or even a date.
Ask yourself if you can leave the office at 5:00 without getting hives and
stressing about all the work left on your desk. Try making plans with friends
and keeping them, rather than canceling... again. Go out and see what your fair
city has to offer: hit the museums,
and other cultural hotspots. You could even try your hand at bingo.
Don't laugh, it's the hottest game with balls these days. Check it out at Tortilla
Flats in NYC, Tempest in LA or your local church.
If you are serious about your career but still want to broaden your dating
horizons, ask if your company will pay for you to take classes
related to your job. Many corporations offer compensation and this is a great
way to meet people outside the office with the same interests as you, plus it
will show your initiative to your boss, which is always a good thing.
Question 2: Do You Know Your Friends Too Well?
Feel like your circle of friends
is closing faster than a New York City apartment?
Maybe it's time to expand your horizons a bit. I'm not suggesting you ditch
your gang completely, but your chances of meeting someone will dramatically
increase if you -- gulp -- try hanging with some fresh faces.
in the next cube who seems cool, or that person you always talk to between poses
why not see if he/she wants to hang out one night. And while you're at it, ask
him/her to bring some friends along for the ride. You never know who might tag
along and even if no one lights your match, you just might make some new friends,
which ain't so bad. The more friends you have, the more people who are available
to set you up.
But, and this is a huge but (insert Jennifer
Lopez joke here), do not assume your friends will play matchmaker just because
you are single. Most people are afraid to mention the fixup for fear their friend
will be offended. If you are game for blind
dates, tell people. They just might surprise you.
More: Hunt for new haunts and
tally your score!