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SHOUTOUTS

To Julia from Anonymous:

It is very normal to be as angry as you are. You've been treated very badly! BG is so right on when she says part of your anger comes from deluding yourself and putting up with his behavior. But really, give yourself a break. It takes bad decisions to learn those really hard lessons even though they hurt so badly. But this will form who you are to become and give you something to look back on when you aren't sure whether to trust your heart with the next guy. This is how you had to learn what you will and won't put up with.

So now, instead of beating yourself up because you put up with this for so long, celebrate that you got yourself out of it! It's a hard thing to do; take it from one who stayed with that really bad relationship for three and a half years! In the future, you will look back on this and not be angry; you will feel sad for the person he is and proud of the person you've become, AND you'll know you've got the strength to go though so much and the judgment to pull out. You couldn't have had all that without this.