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For Angst from Catwomen:

It's perfectly fine to break up with friends who aren't fulfilling their part of the bargain. It'll feel weird at first -- like when you're reaching for the phone to invite them out -- but in the long run, friends who are all take and no give are no friends.

I recently broke up with a group of friends I had known for two years. We started out great, and then they slowly stopped making any effort to support or even just hang with me. The final straw was the constant jibes about how little money I made in comparison to them (especially when it was given as a reason why they weren't going to invite me to events). When the one I had been closest to said (paraphrase), 'where can your kind of people afford to go for dinner?', I decided I'd had enough.

Now I am happier, better off financially (now that I'm not trying to prove that I can spend as much as them), and with a great group of people I would have never met had I not freed myself from that situation. Good luck!