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Dear Breakup Girl,

I've been dating this guy for about two months. Actually, we've only gone out about four times. He is definitely more into me than I am him. He really is just not my type.

I want to breakup with him, and I want to do it over the phone. He is a lawyer, and I know if I meet him for drinks I will get the third degree and it will be ugly. Given the short period of time we've been going out is it okay to breakup over the phone?

-- Liz

Dear Liz,

As I've stated here, the phone breakup is perfectly acceptable given the intensity (lack thereof) of your relationship. But not necessarily just as a means of avoiding "the third degree." Mainly because it won't necessarily work. Going to a bar and being a member of the bar are equally likely to make someone ask a lot of questions; your right to remain silent will sound a whole lot more awkward on the phone in the first place. So go ahead, but make sure your inner attorney has prepared some answers.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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