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Dear Breakup Girl,
I can seem to meet men only in the fall or winter of each year and they
never, ever last past three months (into the New Year). This has happened to me
with almost all of my potential relationships -- the ones that I thought would
last. I try to find men in the spring, but my aura must be in hibernation. Is
having this three-month limitation normal and what can I do to curb it?
-- Clueless
Dear Clueless,
I'm thinking that sometime maybe in early February,
your relationship sees its shadow and thus decides it's gonna last -- for only
about six more weeks. Other than that, I can't really account for the
particular seasonal patterns in your relationship almanac, but I will say that
three months does seem to be the normal human relationship gestation period.
For some reason, that's as long as it generally takes to get to know someone
well enough to decide that that's, well, enough. If you need proof that it's
not just you, let's just say you wouldn't believe how many letters I get that
start off just like the next few do.
So there's really nothing for you to "do" to "curb" your
tendency. It's more about the mysterious internal rhythm of relationships than
it is about your, um, "aura." But listen, Clueless, spring is almost
here. Don't let this hibernation thing become a self-fulfilling forecast.
Love,
Breakup Girl
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