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Dear Breakup Girl,
Why is it okay for dudes to flirt with all kinds of gals but when a gal does
it they think we're hooches?
-- Steph
Dear Steph,
Oh, because there's been this idea since the dawn of
history that there's not enough room in Western Civilization, in the Garden of
Eden, or wherever, for both men and women to have sexual experience and power.
Because, in a broad psychological/biological sense, it's a little
nerve-wracking to have no real way of knowing if you're the dad. Because the
more sown your oats, the more alpha your malehood. Because ... oh, Breakup Girl
could go on for hours. Those are just a few of the many reasons why it's
"okay."
But it is NOT OKAY.
And gals: you are SO not off the hook. Yeah, you
complain about guys who are "players," but you still hook up with
them. You also call your sistahs hooches, sluts and hos -- when what you really
mean is "Damn, I wanted him!" or "I hope I look cool in front of
the guys when I agree with them." You are not helping.
Homework for everyone: Read Promiscuities by Naomi Wolf. Not a flawless book, but it'll (a) answer your
question, (b) make you feel bad about what you should feel bad about, and (c)
make you not feel bad about what you shouldn't feel bad about.
Love,
Breakup Girl
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