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Dear Breakup Girl,

Hi. I am 14 years old and even though I shouldn't worry about guys, I do. Right now I have a boyfriend. This is the second time I have gone "out" with him. He told me that he never thought he was good enough for me, and to his and my dismay, I am starting to believe it. My friends say he isn't good enough for me, too, and that I could do much better. Complete and utter strangers that I have never seen before in my entire life tell me I could do much better. I want to follow my heart and do what my heart tells me. But I am not sure exactly what my heart is saying. Even though I am only 14 and probably insignificant to you adults, please help!

-- Young, Naive, and Confused

Dear YNC,

Okay, first of all, you are hardly insignificant. In fact, teens and adults pretty much have the same problems; it's just that teens have them in smaller units of time (e.g. "I am hopelessly in love with my girlfriend of three days;" "It's 3:15:29 and he hasn't called since 2:47:31 -- should I dump him?"). A grownup would have written a letter with your exact question after, like, eleven years.

Anyway, your question. Um, were you a guest on a daytime talk show? That's the only way Breakup Girl can fathom total strangers telling you your boyfriend's not good enough ("Girl, toss that chicken dinner and get yourself a winner!"). To be sure, this whole "good enough" thing is risky, highly subjective territory, but if, like, the whole town is turning out to give you their opinion, maybe there's something to it. Never mind the strangers, ask your friends: "What do you guys mean, not good enough? I need specifics." Then listen. To them and to your heart.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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