Dear Breakup Girl,
My "boyfriend." who is/was 32, whereas I am 44, has essentially
broken up with me. I, however, find that subsequently, his attractiveness and
desirability are increasing exponentially with his condescending and sarcastic
behavior. How sick am I? How can I get well?
How many cliches do you want? The grass is always
greener, you want what you can't have, yadda, yadda, yadda. Or, to give it a
more highfalutin psychological spin, it's all about avoiding cognitive
dissonance: the more Gingrichian his disposition, the more firmly and
desperately you cling -- at least in your imagination/memory -- to days gone
by, when he actually was attractive and desirable. No matter what, it's a
normal breakup response, not a symptom of illness. The secret to "getting
well," such as it is, is to not act on these seemingly sick feelings. Take
a chill and call me -- not him! -- in the morning.