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Dear Breakup Girl,

I recently moved to Philly to be with my long distance boyfriend. We were "madly in love" and he was telling everyone (including me) he was ready to marry me. So I hopped in my car and moved out. All at once things changed--no big surprise--but he started pushing me away and "flexing his freedom muscles." Eventually, the relationship could handle no more and so we broke it off. Now, almost two months later, he wants to be friends, but I am having a terrible time. I still love him dearly, but I am still hurt and I can't stop second guessing myself. I want to move on, but I don't want him completely out of my life--he's just too special. How do I do this? Feel comfortable, relax and just be willing to have a good time with him on a platonic frienship level?

-- Lorien


Dear Lorien,

Well, Philadelphia is the City of Brotherly Love. Which bodes better for the platonic part than the "madly" part. (Also, Conde Nast Traveler Magazine rated Philadelphia America's FRIENDLIEST City. Uh oh. Word to the wise: try and relocate to places with slogans more like "...is for Lovers.")

But look, if you're not ready to hang out with him, you're not ready. If it smarts too much now, then give yourself a little more time to keep your distance; it doesn't mean he'll always be "out of your life." I mean, we're friends with England again, but it took a while.

Speaking of which, did he really say "flexing his freedom muscles?" Euw. He may have taken the tour of Independence Hall one too many times.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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