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Dear Breakup Girl,
I'm a college freshman currently dating a wonderful guy that I met the first
week of school. As of right now, everything's great. The only problem is this:
he's head-over-heels in love with me (a terrible problem, I know), and I'm not
very commited at all. I like him and I don't necessarily want to see other
people, but I don't\ want to lock myself into a long-term relationship so soon.
Ideally, I would keep seeing him for a while longer, and if I didn't start
feeling something more-- something that would make it worth a serious
commitment-- then we would break up.
Here's the rub: we got cast opposite each other in a production of
"Romeo and Juliet." The on-stage chemistry between us is amazing. If
I were to break up with him, the show would suffer tremendously. Do I have any
choice but to wait until after the play is over? I hate being in a relationship
that is continuing by default when it would really be better that it ended. But
I can't end this without hurting both my boyfriend and the play. ????
-- Squirmy Juliet
Dear Squirmy,
Are you sure you're not channeling some episode of
Blossom? God, this scenario would be totally cute if you ... liked
him.
Anyway, here's the thing: you can't end this without
hurting the boyfriend. That's a given, play or no play. But as far as the show
is concerned, are we talking a few weeks, or several months? A few weeks, you
can legitimately stall -- after all , the rehearsal schedule has no doubt cut
into your social life, so there's your motivation (excuse?) for seeing each
other a bit less. But as for longer than that, well, N OT doing anything, if
it's driving you nuts, may also interfere with your on-stage chemistry. If you
really can't stand the, um, playacting, you may have to go ahead and do the
deed. I think the play will probably be fine. You two are older (wiser?) than
those two kids you're playing, anyway, and remember: the drama is all about
wanting what you can't have.
Love,
Breakup Girl
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