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Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend is in the process of a divorce. His ex had a son with someone else before she met my boyfriend, but the father took off. My boyfriend has been Eric's Dad since he was a baby. Boyfriend and ex also have a daughter together. Boyfriend gets the kids every weekend and Wednesday nights for dinner. Boyfriend's ex has a new man -- well, not really new -- they've been together as long as I've been with Boyfriend, nearly two years. I found out today from Eric that his Mom's boyfriend (my boyfriend's ex's new man) frequently refers to Eric as his son. This doesn't seem to bother Eric, but I wonder if I should tell my boyfriend about this? Eric's real father has never been in the picture, but my boyfriend has been there since Day One. Should I tell my boyfriend about this, so that he can remind everyone that he is Eric's dad, in spite of not being able to be with him every day? Or should I stay out of it and keep this to myself? (I don't refer to the kids as "mine" when they are at our house on the weekends.)

--Annoyed

Dear Annoyed,

Yeah, I can totally understand your indignation. But: just as you don't refer to the kids as yours, neither should you refer to this business as such. I'd just do your best to help your boyfriend make the mostest of Wednesdays and weekends.

Love,
Breakup Girl

 
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