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Dear Breakup Girl,

About eight months ago, my boyfriend of almost two years dumped me for an 18-year-old. (He's 26.) I cried for a while, spent a while being angry, then realized that he was never all he was cracked up to be and moved on with my life. My career, my social life, and my creative work have all taken off like a rocket, I'm currently dating a woman who treats me wonderfully, and overall I'm really happy.

He and I occasionally travel in the same social circles. When the time comes that we have to see each other again, I'd love to be able to look in his eyes, smile, and be utterly gracious, poised, polished, and happy-looking. Mostly because, well, I just want to be all of those things anyway (and I am, much of the time) and I know that he'd be eating his heart out, since I'm so much better, cuter, etc. than the near-jailbait he dumped me for.

Is it wrong to wish to send a silent message that says something like, "Your loss, loser?" And what is the best way to leave said impression without also leaving the impression that you're open to further social interaction? I don't want to suggest that he and I be friends again, because, well, he's a loser who likes younger women because he can dominate them. Not someone I need in my life, thank you.

Okay, I'm probably a tiny bit vindictive. I don't want to pour sugar in his gas tank or anything, I just want to bring it home to him (without actually saying anything) that I've moved on with my life.

Have any suggestions?

--K

Dear K,

No, 'cause you do. "Look in his eyes, smile, and be utterly gracious, poised, polished, and happy." That's where the sugar goes.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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