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Dear Breakup Girl,

My question refers to abortion. I know, I know, WHOA ! But I am not really asking about your opinion as much as how it affects the woman who goes through it. Now I know this is something I may never fully understand, being a "leave my deposit and have no side-effects" male of the species. But see, thing is, it wasn't my deposit. I got to her after all of this had occurred. However this woman whom I love very much is obviously suffering some effects from this past experience. Is there anyway I can help her face the emotional effects of this without losing her ? First off she says she does not want to deal with it. But it's obvious it is eating her up. Second, she says that if she does ever deal with it, it could change her desire for a romantic relationship. I reckon I sort of understand that as it is very personal and involves the same . . . well, equipment you know ? I love her -- do I risk losing her by doing what may be good for her ? Will she appreciate it later ? Or will my attempt to make her face her feelings backfire bigtime ?

-- No Deposit, No Return ?

Dear No Deposit,

Excellent questions (and excellent, if unsettling, play on words). I recommend that you run them by the smart and experienced counselors at Planned Parenthood (1-800-230-PLAN). They can offer insight into how to best allow her to deal and heal. Do that, and I'll bet you a nickel that she'll keep you around.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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