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Dear Breakup Girl,

Here are two short and somewhat related questions:

1. How does an intensely analytical (35 year old) soul know whether reservations said soul is having about making THE commitment are reservations about the person to whom the soul is considering making THE commitment to or reservations about THE commitment itself (due to notoriously serial bouts of serial monogamy)?

2. How does one justify ending a relationship with a person with whom one gets along swimmingly? In other words, how do you know if it's right to tell someone you've been dating for two years and who is expecting to marry you that they are peachy keen, truly, but just not the right one (again, knowing analytically that there is NO "right one")? Your undeniably awesome insights would be greatly appreciated.

--Hmm

Dear Hmm,

Well, they're not just related; they're the same. Meaning that they could have been even shorter. But anyway.

What you do is know analytically that gut feelings are not logically explained to begin with. You quit making pro/con lists and plotting parabolas and realize that "peachy" and "but" are parallel lines that can meet. You accept that said soul, no matter how analytical, must be allowed to intuit its mate. You apply the New Year's Eve Test, or the Porch Test, and you see what results your imagination has to offer.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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