Did Everyone Get That?
The Cutting Edginess of Dating in 1999
by Colin Lingle
As everyones favorite calendar-boy "Gregory" moves from his
teens to his twenties, we find the same questions dogging us that our ancestors
did: "How do I ask someone to the Harvest Ball?" "What do I wear
to a Winter Solstice party?" "Do you think he/she, like, LIKESlikes
Well, if you were lucky enough to be alive and clicking in 1999, at least you
had some help. Studious readers of the past years Big To Do have learned
some clever tricks for meeting, mating, and making it stick.
For those of you who might have been pencilling your paramours name upon
a Peechee folder instead of paying attention, let us quickly review. Below,
its the best of the Big, organized in a handy crib sheet.
Lesson 1: Get
uh, studies have shown that the odds of meeting your
particular capital-S "Someone" simply skyrocket when you LEAVE THE
HOUSE. Who knew? So
how do you A) get in play; B) do something worthwhile;
and C) show how good intentioned and generous and giving and earnest you are?
Try volunteering! No, scratch that
Volunteer! Not only are there thousands
of organizations across the country (including one in YOUR community), but many
of them such as Single Volunteers
and Seattle Works are deliberately
designed to be social activities. How perfect is that? Now you have no
excuses. Go forth and mingle.
Lesson 2: Go Have
Newsflash: "Everyone" is "Always" too "Busy" to
do "Anything." Yes, well, heres a BG Rule of Thumb: For every
action, there should always be an equal and opposite night spectacular enjoyment
(within reason). But wheres the grin in dragging yourself down to yet
another bar for just another drink? These days, if youre going
out, youve got OPTIONS. Do a little research and you can probably find
an innovative venue in your Anytown, U.S.A., that puts a new spin on the old
drill (stop what youre thinking; stop it). Take your posse (plus the requisite
friends-of-friends) to a new high-tech
night out or find a location like LUVBUZZ
that will do the romantic research for you. Its the new millennium, darlings;
how do you think the Jetsons met?
Lesson 3: Play
Well With Others
Now that youve met a person worth your valuable while, youll want
to find out how they do in a creative group setting. Take it upon yourself to
design a social evening that will engage and entertain a group of 00 sharpshooters
like you and your gang. Barbecues are overdone. Bowling still classic,
but you have to be in the right frame of mind to literally spend the
night in someone elses shoes. Tie your party to a classic
event thats not the Super Bowl. Or why not take it to the next level?
Create a citywide scavenger hunt of ten fantastic nightspots. Rent the aquarium
and serve sushi. Your imagination is your only limit. And in this case, its
a limit you should go over.
Lesson 4: Always
There comes a moment in every nascent relationship when its time to close
the deal. Are you taking it up a notch? Are you going exclusive? Are you using
certain vocabulary words or arent you? If you, personally, are heading
that direction, you want to make the decision to come along very easy
for your paramour-to-be. One perfect night timed just so can make
all the difference. A few things will help the situation shake out as it should.
The right atmosphere. The right
meal. And, for heavens sake, the right
music. If that doesnt get your honey to join up, then it just wasnt
meant to be.
Lesson 5: Aisle
Be There for You
For some of you, 1999 was the year that you decided to tie the big, frilly,
surprisingly expensive knot. As is our way, Americans celebrate the culmination
of this particular relationship arc with elaborate shows of spending, gifting,
and getting. But again we hear you asking, "Big To Do! Isnt there
an easier way?" Yes, there is. The same ingenuity
that gets us in and out of the grocery store in no time (oh, wait
well, its supposed to help) has now been turned to the complicated
ritual of the bridal registry. Dont be fooled; this is just as much a test of your compatibility
as anything. You might as well make it fun.
BONUS LESSON: Celebrate in Style!
Now that both you and the Big To Do have made it to the end of 1999, its
time to tip a glass and put the "bbl" in "bubbly." Find
out whats "coming up next" when you pop the cork on December
31st, on your wedding night
or even after you win your Oscar Pool.
That was the Big To Do that was! Look for more great advice from the front
lines of dating in 2000!
recently joined Team BG and is already considering getting serious.
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