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SHOUTOUTS

To Hopelessly Femme from The Original Mike

First of all, I wish that I'd heard of this school where about half the student body is queer. It might have made my coming out process a lot easier. Second, I agree with BG's advice (i.e., asking a friend why he or she doesn't think people pick up on your sexuality if you're trying to make it known to others and not making any drastic appearance or personality changes that you're not comfortable with just to fit a lesbian stereotype). However, I'd add one suggestion. It might be a good idea to check out any gay-lesbian-bisexual-transgendered (glbt) student organizations that exist on your campus, as well as the glbt community center in the town or city where your school is located (if there is one). Getting involved in such groups could allow you to meet other lesbians in a context that will give them at least a pretty strong suspicion that you are queer as well.

To Trish from R:

I wanted to add one thing to what BG said: you should probably talk to someone about birth control. Yes, abstinence is the best way (and we all hope that since you don't seem to want to continue having sex, you won't). However, older significant others can definitely put a lot of pressure on a teenager, and you should be prepared to take care of yourself in the event you "give in" or do, in fact, decide that you are ready. That way you have one less thing to worry about.

 
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