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Dear Breakup Girl,

OK, so I wrote you a few months back (you likened me and my roommate to Ally McBeal) and told me to get over the guy who had broken my heart (she, by the way, is dating another guy at work...) and I basically have been trying to do just that. Anyway, I would say I am basically over him, but here's the problem. I just don't like anyone. Now given my luck in the past, you would think that would be a bonus, but, well, it's depressing and it's ruining my social life. I feel like a total b*tch. In the last month or so, four of my guy friends -- all amazing guys (except one, don't ask) that I would do anything for -- have confessed their whatever for me, and I just can't reciprocate. And I can't give a good reason. I feel like I'm being a total snot for rejecting these guys, plus now that they've told me this, for the most part, they won't play with me anymore. What should I do, BG? Do I give these guys with whom I really seem to have no chemistry with a chance? There are friendships at stake if I do, but they seem to already be in limbo, anyway. One of them is a guy I kind of hooked up with for a while, but he's really just kind of young (not statutory young, just juvenile), the other is truly one of my best friends. We have one of those stupid Julia Roberts marraige deals (mainly in jest), but he is amazing amazing but no spark, or to be blunter no lust really. The other two guys are less consequential (an old neighbor who's quite strange and a friend who, I know from history, always falls for his female friends and then gets over it) Am I a total asshole? Am I ever again going to find someone I'm remotely attracted to? Am I going to have any non-female, non-gay friends left after this whole thing? Help. I feel profoundly crappy and I can't shake it because of this whole thing.

-- Anonymous Please Please Please

No Problem, No Problem, No Problem,

Phew, you know what? Your situation is SO much better than its opposite (which, believe me, I hear a lot): "Dear Breakup Girl, I keep saying yes to guys even though I don't feel much for them, and now I'm just kind of numb." I think you're just not into these guys. I can't tell you not to feel bad, but I can tell you there's no reason to. And also this: when you find someone who does do it for you, boy, will you know it.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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