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Dear Breakup Girl,
Okay, this is kinda (well actually is) rather lengthy and complicated, but
here goes. Currently I'm a SWM 20, sophomore in college. At the beginning of
the summer semester two new girls, twins, although not identical, moved into
the dorms. We met one Sunday morning at church and I was informed that they
were going to the same college as me and we ought to get to know each other.
All fine and well. Now the fun begins. As the only available college boy in the
church at the time it was assumed immediately and automatically that one of the
twins and I were going to end up hooking up. Rumors flew about who liked who
and the like and it all became a lovely little mess. Extremely short: I liked
one and the other liked me. I now know.
So one night, a friend and I stop by the dorms to see them the twin I liked
(further referred to as t1) and we had a deep conversation about her life and
mine and past relationships and that genre of discussion. It was a bit
emotional, at least from my standpoint. So we made arrangements for the four of
us to go out the next evening to show them around town, so to speak. However,
t2 had already laid claim to me (according to the sisterly and womanly laws
governing men, I later found out) so t1 agreed to backoff. T2 used this time
get to know me and one night voiced her affections for me audibly. --and
physically. (Hold on now, not like that, she kissed me. Okay, a lot, but ...).
She requested that I at least give the relationship a try, and being the
want-to-be-a-nice-guy type that I am, I agreed.
It became quite clear to me that this was not going to work since I hadn't
ever pondered the possibilites of pursuing t2 and still had a bit for t1. So, I
told her up front and honestly that the trial run was over and that I was sorry
and she seemed to be cool with it. (She has a newly acquired bf).
During all this time t1 took it upon herself to find her own bf and to voice
her opinion over my treatment of her sister. T2 insists to her that I did treat
her well and didn't hurt her. So I took it upon myself to apologize to t1 and
explain the whole situation.
Now we're at the present (finally) and here's the problem. T1 has hinted
(well, blatantly said it to me) that she and current bf may not be together
long. I know this is dangerous territory to venture into, but is there some
possibility that t1 and I may have a chance? Even with the history between t2
and myself. But we never did have a chance for anything to happen
before......so....???? What do I do now??? (maybe I should interject some
personal views: personality wise and in other ways I think t1 and I are well
suited for each other and would make a great couple. Well of course I do, I
want to date her, but you get my point.) Wishing I could magically fix the
whole thing, sign me ...
Do you two have a chance? Sure. Stranger things have
happened, on Twin Peaks, anyway. Still, you're gonna have to back off until T1
and B0 (Boyfriend Nothing) make a clean break. Also, I'd give T2 a heads-up. As
in a "Hey, I just wanted to give you the respect of letting you know ahead
of time that I'm planning to ask your sister out and acknowledge that that's a
little awkward. But hey, I just gotta be me ...!" kinda thing. Note:
"ahead of time," as in, 5 minutes. According to the sisterly/womanly
laws of physics, the "news" will reach T1 at twice the speed of
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