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Dear Breakup Girl,

I have been a bad bad girl. Years ago I was involved with a guy who majorly broke my heart. I carried a torch for him for about ten years as we carried on a series of flings (long distance on again, off again). Well, I got over him, met someone else, got married, etc. So did he. However, he still calls me periodically and when he does, we inevitably end up having phone sex. I tell myself that it's not really cheating because we don't actually DO anything, but it does seem a tad icky. Yet I find his attention so flattering that, until now, I have always welcomed his calls.

But now things are different. I'm pregnant and so is his wife. Continuing our "chats" seems even ickier now than ever. He continues to e-mail me asking me when I'll be free to talk and I have been putting him off, saying that I'm really busy. My fear is that if I tell him I'm not interested he will regard me as a flake who can't make up her mind, coming on to him in one breath and telling him I don't want to continue these sexy phone calls in another?

-- Chocolate Fizz

Dear Chocolate Fizz,

Well, skip the breath where you come on to him.

Love,
Breakup Girl

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