Entry 6: Old Flame Week
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Monday, May 11 - Wednesday, May 14
San Francisco is a city of bridges. Indeed, BG used her time here to reconnect
with dear college gal pals, with her best friend from 7th grade (NOTE: telephone records will show that each of us did
place a few "do you like her?" calls on one another's behalf,
but each of us always conducted our own breakups. Teens, let this
be a lesson/example from your elders) -- as well as with three old flames.
Q: What do they all three have in common (aside from fond memories
of a delightful relationship)?
A: After seeing me in SanFran, they all said, "Here, I'll get
Lunch, dinner, lunch. 3 for 3. How good is Breakup Girl?
Said it before, will say it again; Whether or not you Stay Friends is not
a measure of your maturity, skill, ability to deal, or quality of your
relationship, pre or post. Sometimes there's a Friendship Core there, sometimes
there's not; Sometimes one crystalizes later. Don't sweat it.
Anyway, the deets:
1.) EPIC INTERNATIONAL ROMANCE BOY
Cardiff, Wales, 1985. He is a student, she is at an international
music festival with her high school chorus. He has an accent. Though she
goes home, the overseas romance lasts -- pre-BG-superpowers and, god help
us, pre-Internet -- a good two years. Fountain-penned love letters, hushed
late night phone calls, rendezvous in Boston and Barcelona. Now, still,
we are [Just] Friends. And now that he lives stateside, we hang out occasionally,
and giggle about our teen melodrama. By the way, because his father holds
an honorary royal title, he and his siblings are all entitled to get married
in Westminster Abbey. Note to self: Doh!
2.) LONG DISTANCE BOY
I'm in New York, he's in San Francisco, yadda yadda yadda. Still, an excellent
smarty pants law student with beeeg blue eyes who often serves as BG's gender
BG does not mean to , by example -- especially by choosing not to pursue
a thing with someone who lives walking distance from the original Peet's
Coffee -- put any sort of general kibosh on Long Distance Amore. She will
evaluate your situations on a case-by-case basis.
By the way, we dined at the world famous Chez Panisse. I was going to
list our entire dinner menu, but due to a major BG Mobile Computer Malfunction,
Chris, WebMaster of Men, is typing this out, and I didn't want him to get
too hungry/mad. [BG said on the phone there's water in her computer. ...Hey,
I didn't want you thinking anything short of that could stop a Mac. -- Chris]
3.) BOYFRIEND EMERITUS
You knew BG was brave, but do you want to know exactly how brave? She had
lunch with her big, major Boyfriend Emeritus ... and his lovely wife. She
really is lovely in all ways. Which has nothing to do with anything. See,
BG is totally over him. I don't want to marry him. We have been dear friends
for many years. But he is not following the plan. Which was: I settle
down; he is my children's favorite Bachelor Uncle. Harrumph. [Perfect.
Looks like I get that honor. -- Chris]
Remember, even if, 10 years down the road, BG herself Finds Love, or at
least an "arrangement" with a fellow 40-year-old friend, she
will -- much like an undertaker -- never go out of business. Don't worry.
BG arrives in Brookings, South Dakota for...
The shower for Wedding #2.
Yes, during Seinfeld.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
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