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June 8, 2009

What single women can learn from Michelle O.

Filed under: Celebrities,Psychology — posted by Breakup Girl @ 12:10 pm

Writing in today’s WaPo, Jenée Desmond-Harris wonders: “It’s easy to see now that [Barack Obama] was a great catch, but how many of us would have been open to this guy who strayed so far from the black Prince Charming ideal, starting with his very name?” Her exhortation: “[I]f black women are going to defy the statistics, they need to start being more realistic. Holding out for the perfect man, someone who is intellectual but not nerdy—cool but not arrogant—impeccably dressed but not effeminate—not a player but with just the right amount of edge—is useless.” Read the piece, then let us know: just another scolding for the “picky“* among us, or does Desmond-Harris have a point?

* “picky,” as in: about the person with whom you’re going to spend the rest of your life


  1. From the article:
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    I think this reaches the heart of the matter. We expect potential partners to relax their standards to the point where they’ll recognize what a terrific catch we are, but we don’t realize that we have to do the exact same thing to the same degree. (Or possibly to a “greater” degree, given how much we tend to overvalue our own worth.)

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