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April 9, 2008

Breaking up via text message

Filed under: News, TV — posted by Chris @ 3:19 pm

The blogosphere is OMGing over Gossip Boy Chace Crawford’s split with Idol darling Carrie Underwood via text message. Sure the couple were dunzo a while azo, but a fresh quote from Carrie over the weekend provided the juicy SMS twist to their “mutual” breakup that has people typing.To us, Charrie (Crawwood?) never seemed so serious that decorum would dictate a face-to-face breakup — especially with C-Bear constantly on tour – but there’s something about texting that suggests “I want to spend as little time on this breakup as possible and use the fewest number of letters.” Ouch. What do people think? Is this the appropriate way to extricate oneself when one of the parties has their own commemorative Louisville Slugger?


  1. um yeah. can we say “chicken”? (a.k.a. “BAWK BAWK BAWK….)
    if you arent man enough to tell the woman to her face you are being a big fat jerko. no thanks.
    i hate it when guys are not upfront with them just so they can get the lazy way out. yuck!

    Comment by Karen — April 10, 2008 @ 12:00 am

  2. Karen, why are you assuming that Chace instigated the break-up? Carrie stated “We broke up via text…” That could easily mean that she broke up with him.

    If they were effectively having a long-distance relationship (quite possible with him on tour), I can certainly understand the dumper not wanting to string the relationship along until their next face-to-face. Regardless, text is a bit too impersonal. (Or I’m a bit too old fashioned.)

    Even for a long-distance breakup, a phone call is a far more personal way to call it quits.

    Comment by Karl R — April 10, 2008 @ 10:37 am

  3. At first I thought it was bad to break up by text, but for some people texting is like breathing, and they look at texting the same as talking on the phone. Long distance relationships are hard and I agree if they werent going to see each other for a while, why string it along. I still think the best way would have been over the phone but that is me.

    Comment by Tonya — April 10, 2008 @ 12:41 pm

  4. I accidentally dumped someone by text message. I had all the good intentions of telling him face to face, but when I got there I just couldn’t pull the trigger. After dinner we were talking back to the train station and he asked what was there to do around here on a Tuesday night. I said “I don’t know about you, but I’m going home to play Starcraft.” He thought I was joking. I gave him a hug and leaned back when he tried to go in for a kiss. Then he ASKED if he could kiss me. (If you have to ask the answer is no.) I said no, and we parted ways and I got an SMS a few minutes later “Yeah so was that you dumping me?”

    I replied “Yes. I’m sorry I’m so bad at it.”

    Comment by x — April 10, 2008 @ 1:34 pm

  5. Most guys have dumped me by no longer speaking to me or answering the phone when I called. Frankly, I’ll TAKE a text message* dumping just as long as someone tells me I’m dumped in some way. It’s still more dignified than me being humiliated and “figuring it out” 2-3 weeks later once I clue in why he’s disappeared.

    * though yeah, they’re gonna get made fun of a bit.

    Comment by Jennifer — April 10, 2008 @ 2:29 pm

  6. im not instigated who intiated it. im just saying texting isnt the way to go. in person is better. or you can do it via email.

    i’ve been dumped w/o people telling me and stuff. and it drives me nuts. tell us already! geez!

    i’ve been the dumpee too. but that worked out okay(We are still friends an email about 1xs a week)
    its hard either way but i’d rather have someone do it with class and in a gentle way.

    although…i havent been dumped in a long time, so could be wrong about the above counts.

    Comment by Karen — April 10, 2008 @ 2:52 pm

  7. I think we should consider the specific situations of the relationships. If they’ve been together for 1 yr or longer, and have been through great and tough times, the guy should at least show some respect and consideration when walking out. Be a man.Do it upfront and be polite. Don’t let her guess wild in confusion and sadness.If you just had some “friendly” talk online and then 1 or 2 dates, it’s OK to make yourself disappear without a word, since you don’t have an “official” relationship. Once it’s clear btween the 2 that the relationship is exclusive,there should be some “emotional responsibility”, well, as we all deserve. Texting is impersonal and bitter but it’s better than “No Word So You Figure It Out”, which is by far the worst.

    Comment by Melly — April 11, 2008 @ 8:00 am

  8. yes, please give us the respect and consideration we deserve! dont be a coward. but i do agree with the above post. its a case by case basis.

    if there is no exclusivity then its probably alright(but not recommended) but if there is well then!!! shame on the man. i’ve heard/read too many stories of the guy stringing the poor girl along while he’s got someone on the side. takes a real jerk to do stuff like that. I have not been invovled with any of those kinds of men but i have a 1 cheating rule. you cheat once and you go to the curb. i have zero tolerance for that. literally. its not a good trust worthy realtionship….and when trust is destroyed….

    Comment by Karen — April 12, 2008 @ 8:23 am

  9. My boyfriend broke up with me by text. It was the first experience for me and I think that is is impersonal, degrading and un-Christian-like! He professed to treat all people fairly and he didn’t give me that respect!

    Comment by Rochelle — April 30, 2008 @ 8:35 pm

  10. Ask me out on Sunday and break up with me on Monday-by text: how respectful for someone you claimed to care about so much!!

    Comment by Rochelle — April 30, 2008 @ 8:36 pm

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  13. my EX-boyfriend asked me out on tuesday, a week later on wednesday i was dumped by text in my english class.
    it was horrible i burst into tears, he seems to not be bothered by it at all,still wants to be friends, and we speak everyday which i know could be bad news but its okay so far.
    but breaking up by text is the worst, it felt like he didnt care at all :(

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  16. My ex dumped me by text, completely out of the blue. We were exclusive and dating almost a year. To rub salt into the wound he also insulted me. Saying that it was coz I have no self esteem and no social skills. How ironic for someone dumping me by text? Needless to say we aren’t friends.

    Comment by Meg — January 17, 2011 @ 10:10 am

  17. how should i break up with my girlfriend we dont talk i dont like her anymore what should i do.

    Comment by karl — February 8, 2012 @ 4:50 pm

  18. i need help there is this guy, who says he loves me but i dont know what to do, because all my feelings for him is like compleatly gone and i dont know what to doo…

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