MSN.com, Match.com, HappenMagazine.com: they’re in a healthy and satisfying 3-way relationship. Meaning that you can find MSN/Match.com’s “Ask Lynn” columns –penned by BG’s alter ego — over at Happen now as well.

This week Lynn helps Frozen-with-fear Phil who has gotten plenty of first dates, but is baffled when it comes to making the next move:

Is a tie too much, or will I look over-dressed? Should I touch my date’s arm, her shoulder… or not touch her at all? When is it OK to talk about certain subjects? Do I wait for the awkward moment at the end of the date for a kiss or not? These are just a few of the thousands of questions that go through my head. I don’t know what to do about any of it, and it’s making me sick.

Read the full letter at Happen Magazine for some ground rules from Lynn. Then come back here and add your own suggestions in the comments below!