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June 30

Prom couple update!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 8:40 am

promtagA happy ending from July 13, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl

My letter was published in your “Prom” series. I don’t really have a question, just an update! As of last week, I am back together with Brendan! It seems that he had not really moved on, but was really just confused and needed some time…that girl he was seeing was, in his words, a “huge mistake.” I just thought I would share this with other Breakup Girl readers to prove that love CAN happen the second time around AND be two times better! Thanks for listening Breakup Girl, a nand don’t worry, just because I am no longer a “breakup girl” doesn’t mean I will not be visiting your site, because I will! IT is the the best!

— Jolene

Dear Jolene,


Breakup Girl


May 6

Prom coda: Just go for it!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 8:23 am

promtagA happy ending on June 8, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

Just something to add to your great Prom series. When I was at the age of worrying about prom dates, I found myself in the situation of having no steady guy to ask. I also knew that if I didn’t do something soon, I would probably end up going alone.

What did I do?
I took my future into my own hands (something that took a lot of nerve) and walked up to this guy i was fairly interested in. And amazing things happened! He was a friend of mine, but not one of those really close friends. I asked him if he hade a date for the prom (even though I knew full well that he didn’t). When he said he didn’t, I asked him if he would like to go with me. He said yes. What happened next is the truly amazing stuff. He suddenly started paying a lot more attention to me than he previously had, joining the backstage team I was on, sending me letters, and just generally being a nice FRIEND. At some point between the date of asking and the prom, we started going out together. We actually went out for FIVE years. The moral of the story? Just go for it. You never know what might happen.

— Sam

BG responds: Who-hoooo!


May 5

I’m going to prom with my ex’s friend

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 7:23 am

promtagDancing as fast as she can on June 8, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I broke up with my boyfriend two months ago but he still likes me. A lot! Now his friend likes me also and my ex asked me to the prom but I would feel funny going with him so now I am going with his friend instead. I’m mad at my ex — he follows me around — but I don’t want to hurt him; I only want to be friends. Should I feel guilty about going to the prom with his friend even though he asked me first?

— Sandra

Dear Sandra,

You have hereby demonstrated the one major exception to Breakup Girl’s yes-means-yes rule when it comes to accepting prom dates. Normally, it’s No Backsies. But when your ex asks you — given how weird and changeable all these feelings and situations can be — BG will cut you some slack for saying yes in the chill of the moment and then reneging. Still, you do have to make sure you’ve been straight and up front with your ex about the date-switch sitch. Especially ’cause you’re going with his friend. In an ideal world you’d be going to prom with, oh, Jared Leto, as opposed to your ex’s friend; but Breakup Girl realizes that, especially in smaller schools, some of these overlapping circles are unavoidable. Anyway, make sure your ex realizes that you’re not doing this to be mean; you’re really sorry, but you just realized that you really wouldn’t feel comfortable … which wouldn’t make you the most fun date in prom history, yada yada yada. And neither will feeling guilty. So yeah, you can have both a good time and a good heart.

Breakup Girl


May 4

My prom date is seeing someone else!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:02 am

promtagMoving on on June 1, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend broke up with me about three months ago for (at the time not much of a reason other than “I love you but I need to do this right now” and “I am bored”). Quite contradictory, I know, but anyway…we have remained close friends throughout this and now we are going to the prom. Then he drops the bomb that he is seeing someone and is that OK? I feel heart-broken again because I didn’t think he was moving on quite yet. I feel like we are extremely compatible and are meant for each other, I truly believe that. It seems that nobody (not even me) understands our relationship. Here is the question: If I am “supposed” to move on and am not, then does that mean that this love that I have fallen into is meant to be? I am not obsessed or anything, I just want to know if there is anything left to do!

— Jolene

BG schools Jolene after the jump …


May 3

An accidental breakup before prom

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 8:15 am

promtagMisunderstood on June 1, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

I am 17 and a junior in high school. I was going out for two months with this guy named James, but how we ended up breaking up was really strange. I called him one night to ask what was wrong and he misunderstood me and thought I was trying to break up with him (don’t ask me how he got it mixed up). Anyway, when our band class went to Florida for a trip, one of my best friends hooked James up with a freshman. Everyone told me that he didn’t really like this girl (who we’ll just call Penny). But that was a month ago, and I never see the two of them together, and I actually don’t know if they were ever really going out. Anyway, prom is coming up and I really want to ask him. His best friend told me that James does not really want to spend the money to go to big dances like prom. I was going to ask him, but he and I do not talk as much as we used to. We both went our separate ways, and we don’t even say a simple “hi” to each other in the halls. But I can’t stop thinking about him and want to get back together with him. So what should I do? Should I ask him to prom, and how? How can I get back together with him? How can I start talking to him again? Please help!

— Abigail

BG’s response after the jumop!


May 2

We broke up but are still going to prom!

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:47 am

promtagKeeping up appearances on June 1, 1998

Dear Breakup Girl,

My boyfriend has been really busy lately and things haven’t been going well. (Busy with soccer, work, scouts, church, etc.) I still love him a lot but I think he is uncertain of his feelings for me and broke up with me. I have been trying really hard to be cheery around him (it’s working quite well) so that he won’t feel powerful over me and I’m trying to make him like me again and realize what he’s missing out on. If you could help me find ways to get him back, I’d appreciate it a lot. I smiled at him and said “hi” in the halls today at school and he’s looking about how I feel (he looked upset — sad/angry/depressed — I couldn’t really tell but he was surely upset). Also, I’m a freshman and he’s a junior and he asked me to prom about a month ago. I’ve got the dress, the shoes, the hair appointment, and when he broke up with me he said he still wanted to go but I don’t know if I should or not. Do I go with him as friends? I am not sure he even wants to go — maybe he’s just being nice. And what if I end up going and have a terrible time or realize how much I miss him and start crying? Please help. Thanks.

— Lisa

BG thinks outside the corsage box after the jump


Prom Week

Filed under: Advice — posted by Breakup Girl @ 9:28 am

promartEven if you haven’t had a prom in years, you need to pay attention to the letters this week. Consider it a reminder that (a) prom is a perfect laboratory for Breakup Girl-Approved Relationship Behavior, and (b) you still haven’t sent copies of your photos to Aunt Bessie. Which, given the slinky little black sheath numbers you girls are wearing these days may not be a bad thing.

Speaking of dresses, let Breakup Girl say in her own defense that — even during a time of great fashion unrest (for further research, rent Valley Girl or Breakin’ II: Electric Boogaloo) — her attire for all three proms was really rather lovely. Timeless, even. Enough so that, for example, I recycled the pink and white one into my “Shall We Dance?” costume in “The King and I” (I was “I”). Shout out to Breakup Mom, who, though not a morning person, marched me downtown at 8 AM three years in a row for the Filene’s Basement One-Day-Only Prom Dress Event (drill for Bridal Event?).

Memories of my fashion triumph make up in part for my tattered ego: all three (three!) of my prom dates (including the King) are married (not to each other). All of which is to say: (1) unless you’re forced to go with your cousin, behave as if your prom date is the person you’ll be with forever. But (2) relax, they probably won’t be.

A few class notes from Breakup Girl’s Prom 101: Cumberbunds for Credit.

Ask nicely. No games. No third-party research (someone who’s not smart enough to see through “Um, Chris doesn’t know I’m asking you this, but, uh, if Chris asked you to the prom, would you go?” is not someone Chris should want to go to the prom with). No email!

What part of yes don’t you understand? Once you accept, you are locked in. If Second Choice asks you first, say, “Oh, thank you so much. I’ll get back to you by last period tomorrow.” Suck it up and ask First Choice — and then do what you have to do. Slightly harsh, but could be worse.

TUPPIE scum. If you’re really planning to break up with someone, don’t do the T.U.P. (Together Until Prom) thing. Arguably, s/he would prefer to hang with a good friend (say, Dawson) that night than spend “A Night to Remember” with someone who s/he will later find out was just going through the motions. Also, fewer photos to cut each other out of.


February 15

The day after

Filed under: News — posted by Breakup Girl @ 1:42 pm

“Was going to kiss my wife goodbye this morning, but then I thought, ‘Screw that, Valentines Day was YESTERDAY.'”

Your friend and ours, Christian Finnegan

Hah! See, it’s funny ’cause it’s NOT TRUE!

Anyway, BG is recovering from the big day, and gearing up for the EVEN BIGGER DAY, so I’ll leave you with that, and these:

1. Fascinating, and VERY IMPORTANT, in today’s Times: Report Details Sabotage of Birth Control.

2. Fascinating, and NOT AT ALL IMPORTANT: American Idol Hopefuls Julie Zorrilla and Casey Abrams: High School Prom Dates!

There you go. Hope yesterday was great — and today is even better!


August 5

It’s *your* party!

Filed under: Treats — posted by Breakup Girl @ 12:45 pm

Marvelous WonderettesEver marvel at the power of make-believe to bring about real-life happiness? Plus, who doesn’t love four-part harmonies? Well, BG is delighted to offer New York-area (or visiting) BreakupGirl.net readers special discount tickets to THE MARVELOUS WONDERETTES, a cotton-candy colored, non-stop jukebox-musical blast from the past, where you’ll meet four sweet-voiced girls with hopes and dreams as big as their crinolines!  The New York Times called WONDERETTES “effervescent and irresistible…an utter charm!”

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday: $45; Saturday & Sunday: $55. (Regular price $79!) For the discount:

1. Visit BroadwayOffers.com and mention code MAINT01, or
2. Call 212.947.8844 and mention code MAINT01

Westside Theatre,  407 West 43rd Street (between 9th & 10th Avenues)

Trust us, you’ve never had this much fun at prom.


May 26

Prom theme: generation gap

Filed under: issues,News — posted by Breakup Girl @ 11:34 am

And speaking again of parents, from the New York Times:

Racially segregated proms have been held in Montgomery County — where about two-thirds of the population is white — almost every year since its schools were integrated in 1971. Such proms are, by many accounts, longstanding traditions in towns across the rural South, though in recent years a number of communities have successfully pushed for change.

/snip/ Students of both races say that interracial friendships are common at Montgomery County High School. Black and white students also date one another, though often out of sight of judgmental parents. “Most of the students do want to have a prom together,” says Terra Fountain, a white 18-year-old who graduated from Montgomery County High School last year and is now living with her black boyfriend. “But it’s the white parents who say no. … They’re like, if you’re going with the black people, I’m not going to pay for it.”

Interesting corollary, from the same issue of the Times magazine:

According to the group Freedom to Marry, about 13 percent of Americans now live in a state that allows gay marriage or recognizes marriage licenses issued in other states, and that percentage is certain to rise. The gist of the disagreement now isn’t partisan or theological as much as it is generational. Unlike their parents, younger Americans and those now transitioning into middle age have had openly gay friends and colleagues all their lives, and they understand homosexuality to be a form of biological happenstance rather than of emotional disturbance. They’re less inclined to restrict the personal decisions of gay Americans, even if they don’t necessarily want the whole thing explained to their children as part of some politically correct grade-school curriculum. In a sense, the gay rights movement of an earlier era was so successful in changing social attitudes that the movement itself can now seem obsolete, in the same way that younger Americans who have grown up with the premise of environmentalism in their daily lives consider Greenpeace to be a kind of hippie anachronism.

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